goldfish21 wrote:
Something to think about:
Forgiveness is not for the other person.
It's to free yourself from dwelling on angry or upsetting thoughts that serve no good purpose or value in your life. All they do is steal your happiness and present moment, and give you nothing in return except for maybe negative feelings. What a waste of time and energy! Especially when the other person may be happily going about their life giving no thought whatsoever to the fact that you're stewing about some event that happened.
Not forgiving doesn't punish them for whatever wrong they've done towards you, it only continues to punish yourself for no good reason whatsoever.
So, yeah, I think you could genuinely forgive someone for whatever they've done to upset you, because forgiveness is for you, not them, and then you can truly begin to heal and move on and expend your mental & physical energy on things that serve and benefit you and your goals and your life vs. becoming ever more bitter about something someone said or did while they're blissfully unaware that you're trapping yourself in a downward spiral of bitter thoughts that doesn't affect them one iota but does have serious negative implications for You.
Take that perspective and mull it over and ask yourself, could I forgive? (I think you could.)
Yeah, I agree with that sentiment.
And no, after thinking it over, I concluded I won't be able to forgive on my own. Not the way things are now.
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Enjoy the silence.