If you have had no baby by 30, will you never have one?

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chris1989
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12 Nov 2023, 2:43 pm

I sometimes find it frustrating because a society chooses a certain time or age in a person's life when they can or can't do something and that it may sometimes leave the people who still probably wan't children but I taken them a while to mature and to find the ''right'' person to settle down with or even those who don't want children that its ''hopeless'' now or that ''you should have done by now or done it a long time ago''. It makes it seem like it is a person's ''fault'' because they still haven't got to it yet because for some circumstances they were still struggling during a time of life when they were expected to get married and start a family by that stage.

Unlike my grandparents who got married and had my mum and dad between the ages of 20 and 24 and my mum and dad had me and my sister between the ages of 26 and 31, Between the time I was at college and at university and not working in any paid job except volunteering, I was still unmarried and had not had kids, I was going out for a time with a couple of people as friends and then afterwards had stopped speaking to me and lost contact with them.
I didn't start the paid job I have now until I was 26 and since then and now, I still haven't been with anybody, or got married or started having children but my sister did at 26.

I do sometimes miss one of the people I was friends with, with whom I had fallen out with, I have sent her birthday and christmas cards to her but I never got a reply and didn't always see her around in the area in live in, she used to work for Savers but I think she now works for another store across the river from me. I think I remember giving her a sorry card to her once when I saw her after a long time and I felt quite socially awkward and I think she was too. I don't know if I have just been unlucky or that maybe its taken me a while to understand myself and that its taken me a bit longer to understand and adapt to some social norms and ques that other people perhaps already have than someone who is autistic. I seem more social now than I was at 18, although I don't really go out to a bar or something on a saturday night and have only gone out to a pub or restaurant with family. I am even very social at work with staff and customers and I am even willing to go out with colleagues on 25th November for a dinner at restaurant but so far since being in work it still hasn't got me finding someone yet.



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12 Nov 2023, 3:12 pm

Ladies can give birth when they are a lot older than 30, as many are still laying eggs into their 50's. Is when they stop laying eggs they can't give birth.
They do say that it is better to give birth before one is 40 as there are less complications.

Animals vary. Chickens for example, don't live that long and neither can they give birth...

I do see the difficulty for a man because h wants to be a Dad and as he gets older, the woen his age get older as well. Also for the lady it is a concern. Though my Mum said ladies stop aging after 21, though I don't believe this.


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12 Nov 2023, 3:21 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Ladies can give birth when they are a lot older than 30, but they don't give birth to 30 year old babies.


Rob Schneider was a stapler, then he was a carrot. And now Rob Schneider is a 30 year old baby and he's about to discover that being a baby is a lot more than just wearing a diaper and sucking on nipples.

Rob Schneider is the 30 Year Old Baby, rated PG-13.


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12 Nov 2023, 3:31 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
Ladies can give birth when they are a lot older than 30, but they don't give birth to 30 year old babies.


Rob Schneider was a stapler, then he was a carrot. And now Rob Schneider is a 30 year old baby and he's about to discover that being a baby is a lot more than just wearing a diaper and sucking on nipples.

Rob Schneider is the 30 Year Old Baby, rated PG-13.


A film?


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12 Nov 2023, 3:37 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
Ladies can give birth when they are a lot older than 30, but they don't give birth to 30 year old babies.


Rob Schneider was a stapler, then he was a carrot. And now Rob Schneider is a 30 year old baby and he's about to discover that being a baby is a lot more than just wearing a diaper and sucking on nipples.

Rob Schneider is the 30 Year Old Baby, rated PG-13.


A film?


Well, I've got the trailer written. 8)


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12 Nov 2023, 3:53 pm

Ahh! :D

But to answer Chris. Women can ave babies well into their 50's but it is preferred not to beyond the age of 40 because they may have other problems. My Mum was 40 having my youngest brother and she went into an eclamptic fit and only just survived it. My brother had to come out the emergency exit.


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12 Nov 2023, 8:50 pm

I had preeclampsia with my daughter when I was 28.
It can happen to anyone.

The problem with women having babies later in life is because girls are born with all the eggs they'll ever have. They don't replenish the way sperm does. That means a 50-year old mother's baby is made with a 50-year old egg.

That's not necessarily a problem, and other health problems can be a factor in maternal health, but women over 40 or in some cases even over 35 are considered high risk and monitored very closely.

It's actually called Geriatric pregnancy.



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13 Nov 2023, 1:56 am

funeralxempire wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
Ladies can give birth when they are a lot older than 30, but they don't give birth to 30 year old babies.


Rob Schneider was a stapler, then he was a carrot. And now Rob Schneider is a 30 year old baby and he's about to discover that being a baby is a lot more than just wearing a diaper and sucking on nipples.

Rob Schneider is the 30 Year Old Baby, rated PG-13.


Da derp dee derp da teetley derpee dumb

On a serious note I know of at least 3 women over 40 who have given birth recently (and safely).


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13 Nov 2023, 3:25 am

I had my baby at 34. I have friends who had babies at 40, 42 and 44.



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14 Nov 2023, 4:07 pm

Men can father children at almost any age. Just gotta knock up a fertile younger woman.


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23 Nov 2023, 9:39 pm

I'm almost 50 and I don't have kids. I could never have kids. Never. No one should be bringing more children into this horrifying and doomed planet, anyway. Your kids and future kids will have horrible short lives because humans are stupid selfish pricks that won't rest until they've destroyed and everything. I wish my own parents didn't have me.



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28 Nov 2023, 9:36 am

I can't quite work out why nature tells you to do something early when you may not be ready or mature to do it at an early age.



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28 Nov 2023, 9:42 am

I have a friend who's like 38 who just had a baby last year


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30 Nov 2023, 2:55 pm

Psssst, you will never have a baby.. because you don't have a vagina. 8)


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30 Nov 2023, 5:23 pm

I believe the question you are asking here is “i do not have a child and I am thirty years of age. Will I ever have a child?”

I’m pretty sure the answer is no, you won’t.



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30 Nov 2023, 8:57 pm

For me it would be cool if it worked that way as I never want to have one, and I am 33 so that would mean I dont have to worry about it anymore. But pretty sure you can have babies after 30.


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