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01 Apr 2025, 4:26 pm

That guy who was once jealous of me and now he's doing better than me in many aspects. I don't wanna ever encounter with him, and thinking about it annoys me. Looking back everything makes much more sense now.



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03 Apr 2025, 12:01 pm

That must be tough for you. I am like that with my younger sister who has a high flying job whilst I'm now stuck on the dole going slowly mad.


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03 Apr 2025, 12:07 pm

It's difficult when you see people moving on and achieving things and you just feel stuck

I can remember when all my female friends at school started growing up and maturing and it just didn't happen to me and I still struggle with this now

It's hard to not feel bitter sometimes

I hope you can find your way through this because you deserve some good in your life


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03 Apr 2025, 1:36 pm

babybird wrote:
It's difficult when you see people moving on and achieving things and you just feel stuck

I can remember when all my female friends at school started growing up and maturing and it just didn't happen to me and I still struggle with this now

It's hard to not feel bitter sometimes

I hope you can find your way through this because you deserve some good in your life

I was this way when I graduated high school, I felt like everyone grew up & matured & it didn't happen to me, I felt left out, I grew up like every 5 years or more. I was really lucky that my mom let me continue living with her, I moved out when I was 36, I wasn't mentally ready to leave, my sister tought different.



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03 Apr 2025, 1:41 pm

It is relatively normal for an autistic to live with their parents until their mid-thirties and sometimes into their forties. I think I read somewhere that autistic people are more likely than other disabled groups to live with their parents. So in your case Kitty, leaving at 36 y/o is perfectly reasonable and it isn't surprising that you didn't feel ready.



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03 Apr 2025, 1:57 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
babybird wrote:
It's difficult when you see people moving on and achieving things and you just feel stuck

I can remember when all my female friends at school started growing up and maturing and it just didn't happen to me and I still struggle with this now

It's hard to not feel bitter sometimes

I hope you can find your way through this because you deserve some good in your life

I was this way when I graduated high school, I felt like everyone grew up & matured & it didn't happen to me, I felt left out, I grew up like every 5 years or more. I was really lucky that my mom let me continue living with her, I moved out when I was 36, I wasn't mentally ready to leave, my sister tought different.


It was probably the hardest part of my childhood because there was nothing I could do about it and I obviously didn't understand what was going on


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03 Apr 2025, 2:39 pm

What exactly is the point in hating others because of a difference in accomplishments?

From the sound of things, it's not like they prevented your success, or took it from you in some way.

In what way is your lack of success in any way their fault, for which they deserve hate?

You've chosen to compare yourself to other people, then get mad at them when you don't measure up? Don't compare yourself to others. Don't blame them when you don't measure up to a comparison you've chosen to make.

Just sayin'



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11 Apr 2025, 8:00 am

Highly_Autistic wrote:
That guy who was once jealous of me and now he's doing better than me in many aspects. I don't wanna ever encounter with him, and thinking about it annoys me. Looking back everything makes much more sense now.



It sounds like you have returned feelings of envy and jealousy towards him which I completely understand. On the other hand, you have to understand that you are hurting yourself by hating your cousin. If you spend all of your time comparing yourself to the lives of other people, you will never be able to move forward.



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14 Apr 2025, 11:18 pm

I get why you hate your cousin, but he work very hard for his success, you feel left out, it not his fault.