My sister again

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I still don't have the guts to face her down.

This fall is another round of whiny voiced "I can't work while I have to drive my daughter to school" kind of garbage. Then when she runs out of welfare money halfway through the month, I'm "supposed" to pick up the slack, thus draining the money that I have and I cannot save money.

My job is killing me. There is a time limit on this job. I need funds to be able to change jobs. Guess who won't lift a finger to make sure that I keep my money? Guess who denies that this costs me so much? I'm so mad I kicked a plant in the garden into the middle of the next yard.

When will she f*****g grow up enough that we can actually do something with our lives?

This is one more week with my life dead in the water and I can't take very many more weeks like this.

Unfortunately, I'm not sure what you can do with your sister. You're both adults, and I think you are legally entitled to kick her out.

Do some tough love? Some won't grow up till they force themselves to. And hitting bottom is sometimes what it takes. Change comes from with in. As much as we would like to change another, it just doesn't work. You have an obligation to take care of yourself and that is not wrong in any way. Be damn proud you can do it. Guts I can't help you with. Change comes from with in.

Some people will drain the life out of you if you let them. Don't let them. Your first duty of care is to yourself. Sorry if that sounds hard.

you are not responsible for your sister or her kids.. She is responsible for herself and her kids. She can work just about anywhere if she arranges it right. Remember, its your money and she's a leech. You can kick her out if your name is the only one on the lease. Please dont enable her. THe more she whines and the more you give in, the more she's going to do it. The fact that you are responsible for yourself only is something you should not feel guilty about. She can work, that is just an excuse. She should be working her a## off to take care of her own kids. Either that, or you can take the kids to dinner and leave her at home to feed herself, then she cant whine about the kids going hungry. Stay strong.

She holds the keys to the house, and she does cook. It isn't so bad, it's just that I'm seeing a lot of missed opportunities. That's the worst thing. We have the opportunity to do a lot more with our lives for a while yet and she sucks the money out of me.