For all those that feel hated or rejected or just aweful

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This is for you.

http://www.lifepositive.com/Mind/personal-growth/grfx/hug.jpg

Now post a hug for someone out there you love. If you want, it could be someone you miss for any reason and they don't have to be people that come here.

What a well timed hug - thank you!

I'm feeling particularly beat up today. I have times where I just overreact - over focus on something and can't let it go until I get some kind of resolution. I guess the normal thing to do would be to see a problem, think about it, make a note to talk to someone tomorrow or send them an email and then go on to something else, or go to sleep and decide you'll handle the problem tomorrow. I guess that would be the NT way to do it.

Unfortunately I see the problem, think and think and think only about it. Research it, learn more, get more worried, send an email. Then another, then another, then call someone (sometimes even late at night - sigh) and get all worked up until I can't sleep, can't think about anything else at all.

Bleah

I have NO explanation for why I get into those obsessive ruts, but I do. Then I get all these alarmed emails or calls back from people the next day, usually the problem will have a simple kind of solution right away the next day and I'll have all the fallout from the people that I notified when I was so alarmed.

I'm dealing now with fallout. It makes me feel like an idiot.

I think I know what it is.

I rely on my husband (who is NT) tremendously. When we have an argument we don't talk to each other for awhile. Maybe a few hours, maybe several days, but that's usually when I sort of meltdown into this rut of over focusing, over reacting. I feel like I've lost my grounding and that I'm cut loose and feel sort of panicky. I'm going to explain the 'fallout' and the whole thing to him. He's very understanding about AS and really hates it when we argue anyway, so this is just a good reason to try and avoid those kinds of non-communicative periods.

Thanks. I don't know why this clicked just now but it did.

Well, I hope all goes well with your husband.

But I want you to know that if you ever need to talk or you want someone to pray for you (I'm a Christian, but don't know if you even believe in anything, so you don't have to) my PM box is always open.

That is so sweet! Thank you!

I don't want this to sound antagonistic, because it's not.

I just realized I know nothing about you. You're a married AS?

okay, as for me, I am a highly emotional AS who has at least been trying to come to terms with that for years.

I have a hard time keeping friends, mainly because people mistake my hi emotional state as either being sexual in nature or as meaning I'm fake.

I have been through college, though, and got a two year degree and almost got a four year one.

How about you?

I'm a married AS. 4 (grown) kids - 2 boys, 2 girls, the boys are both AS. The oldest girl is borderline. She has some strong AS traits.

I did great in my small hometown all of my life, honor roll and all that, but when I went out to the big state college I melted down big time. Couldn't find my classes even though I had the campus map memorized, couldn't eat in the cafeteria. The smells, loud noises, strange surroundings.... I ended up melting down in my room and then talked hometown friends into coming and getting me. My family abandoned me as being "lazy" and a "lost cause" and said if I left school I could not go home, so I didn't go home.

I taught myself to program and have worked most of my adult life as a tech writer then database programmer then web developer. 4 years ago after a layoff I started selling things online and have been running my own little business ever since.

Never did get the degree, but I got a Vocational Certification for my experience and I taught at the local community college for a few semesters. I didn't like it. I found that I hated regurgitating the same stuff over and over. I didn't like to teach, I do like to learn.

I have a very hard time keeping friends. I have big issues with boundaries, know exactly what you mean about that high energy level. I can just sit and have lunch with a male person and they'll think I'm in love with them because I'm too zeroed in on that person. I tend to tell the truth to people too, which of course is the kiss of death in society. People can't deal with anything close to the truth and they run away. I usually just blurt it out. Then I have all that time afterward to groan and wonder why do I do that!

I miss alot of the jokes, and I take things too literally. This last argument with my husband we finally talked through and I realize now the whole problem started with me taking something he said absolutely literally. We've been together 26 years and he is still working on trying to make sure he doesn't say things that I take the wrong way. We both work really hard on trying to be clear, to the point of repeating things back and saying "Wait - you need to hear what I just heard you say - did you mean this for real?" . That has helped us but with this last argument I can state that it doesn't help 100% of the time.

I just feel so freaking stupid in this world sometimes. It has gotten better as I get older and as I have been able to be around people less (not having to have the office politics to deal with - which I CANNOT do).

Most of the time I feel fine about being AS, I don't see it as a negative overall, I know I have superpowers and I enjoy my life. Most of the time. The last few days I have been wondering why I was cursed with this AS thing.

Are you married? Have kids? I'm 47, how old are you?

Whenever I feel like s**t I tell myself "at least i don't live in africa"

And if that doesn't work I tell myself "I live for the little things because all the big things happen to be disasters." I forget all the big things in my life like school, soccer, and trying to make friends and just think about all the little things that keep me alive: drawing, watching tv, watching hockey, writing stuff.

Before i get banned... I would like to tell you that i feel that a lot of people hate me just because i have issues with controlling my image spamness

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