Syd wrote:
A man who befriends a woman (or vice versa) only for the purpose of becoming more than friends isn't a true friend at all.
What if it initially starts as friendship, but after some time around each other one party begins having feelings beyond friendship? It's something I've wondered for a long while now...
I've had friends that were just that (while I will admit that I haven't been completely devoid of interest in any one girl, it's more a matter that there wasn't enough interest), but on two occassions I've had an attachment to someone I called a friend. Neither of the two are in my life at this point due to poor choices on my part, and I've constantly wondered what kind of friend I was as a result. The former of the two I'll admit I wasn't a true friend toward, because I can't find anything I did to actually contribute, opting to wait for an opening to do something rather than actively trying. The latter of the two I actually made more of an effort for... listening to her problems and offering advice or encouragement whenever I could (and sometimes being there at times where I should've been elsewhere), and basically shelving those feelings for the longest time. Things eventually collapsed after 5 years because I allowed my feelings to get to me, and seeing no good options, took the one that turned out the most illogical. Three years after, I doubt she feels anything other than contempt toward me for that, and for following her around at a distance a good while after. This was all online so one could argue that none of it was real to begin with, but it felt all too real...
idk im just rambling dont mind me
I think that's fine. People don't control the feelings they have and no one knows what things will be like for sure before they start.
05 Dec 2017, 9:21 pm
