At what age did you enter a relationship?

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I got my first girlfriend at age 17. She cheated on me just after my 19th birthday, and is the reason I don't currently date NTs.

I got my second girlfriend at age 23, and it lasted 3 years. She was an Aspie, but it ended because she set arbitrary time periods for various things. She and I are still very good friends, though.

""I got my first girlfriend at age 17. She cheated on me just after
my 19th birthday, and is the reason I don't currently date NTs.""

Just some friendly, well ment advice, you might miss out on things
by pushing all NT`s aside due to one NT cheating on you. I can
understand you feel that way, someone hurt you bad and who
would want to risk that again. Anyway, some cheat, some dont,
both NT`s and Aspies and whatnot. Not sure if dating an Aspie
is the same as being 100% sure you wont be cheated on,
sounds unlikely, people are different even if they are for ex.
Aspies.

One final thing to all the cheaters out there;
just dont do it. If you have the need to hump
/be with someone else then your partner,
at least have the decency to tell them that
before you do anything. To go behind some
ones back like that, and a person you are
supposed to care for, is very very ugly and
makes alot of hurt later down the road. Be
honest.

And remember this, after its done its done!
Theres no taking it back, its cut in stone, a
trust have been broken and that is often
impossible to rebuild, even if you regret alot.
And you have to live with what you did for the
rest of your life. So just be honest, hump/be
with whoever you want but dont hurt others
and hide while doing it, thats kinda chicken
and very selfish.

Think the reason my last relationship lasted as long as
it did, was that we were honest with each other and
open about the things that can be hard to talk about.
And it worked great i think, no nasty surprises, we
knew were we had each other and what we wanted
and both respected and loved the other person for
who she/he was. We could both spend time with other
people if we wanted to, but the love we had for each
other was very strong, other people was no threat to
that we felt. We were a team, a companionship, we
wanted each other to be happy and helped each other
out. We could be 1000 miles apart for a long time and
hanging around other people, didnt matter because we
knew we had "it", that special "it" we felt everytime
we met again.

I had a few relationships (mainly short ones) when I was 16-21 y/o. When I was 25/26 again but after the last fiasco with Ellen last year I decided never ever will I go there again. The trouble is I truelly love women but my shortcomings in reciprocity and TOM makes it almost impossible to have a healthy and good relationship.

The best relationship I had was when I was 19, with a very smart Walloon (French speaking part of Belgium) girl. She played the piano really well and she's a prosecutor now. I'm still a bit sad I ended it. The distance between where she lived and where I did gave me so much frustration then I had to let go.

But hey....

""Walloon (French speaking part of Belgium) girl. She played the
piano really well and she's a prosecutor now.""

Holy crap smart girls speaking french and playing
the piano in waffleland - why have i never heard of
Walloon before!? i`m soo moving!!

Too bad it didnt work out for you Hope
life has a few surprises up its sleeve for you
ahead

^
Thanks. I think I'll pass but one never knows. I hope, if you wish so, that someday you find someone too. (mmmm, that sounds a bit.... I don't know.... ,well meant thou)

I didn't get my first one until I was 20. Now I am on my third and going to marry him.

18...it only lasted about two weeks, but hey.

I started dating when I was 15. My first kiss was at 15 from my nerdy Model UN leader, who was a Junior when I was a Freshman. We were makeout buddies for about a week and then he abruptly dumped me. It soiled my reputation among my more uptight GT peers..because I didn't understand boundaries and whatnot and it got "talked about"...that was the beginning of my "estrangement" from them...which culumnated in my eventually joining a band...

My first real relationship started a few months later lasted till I was 22. It was with the guitar player in my band.

In 3rd grade, while the class was sitting around in a circle on the floor, my closest friend turned to me and pretended to whisper a secret in to my ear. She kissed me and I asked her to tell me again a couple more times because I didn't hear it clearly. Sneaky, huh? That was the best relationship I've ever had. After that, it wasn't until the 10th and 12th grades that I could have girlfriends, but those relationships were hell for me.

I've never had a real relationship. The closest I got was with a girl I actually managed to get a second date with. But that was it. I haven't gone on a date since then and that was 3 years ago. *sigh*

0- when I was born I had a mother and a father and other family relations

You want to first or the one which is most serious....?

All up i have lived in defacto type relationships for about 8 years of my life. I have to say when it comes to sexual relationships i have been pretty wild. I have never got an Std but i have two abortions. I still feel really sad about that cause i love babies.
I wouldnt do it now but my first proper bf when i was 15 i slept with a guy behind his back or nearly did or kind of did. He was in the next room ands walked in on us.
So that relationship didnt last very long. My second bf i did too except we wasnt offically together.
My third bf when i was 16 i slept with one of his friends. He told me i can do what i want but dont sleep with none of his mates. Anyway, I told his friend I cant see you again and dont tell him and goes i wont sweetie and i dont think he did. Then my fourth bf i slept with three men behind his back. He found out about two of them and nearly killed me, literally. I had severe bruising and internal bleeding from getting the s**t kicked out of me.
My fourth bf i slept with two men but he knew about it so that was cool. No actaully he wasnt cool. He was kind of hurt but i was the boss in that relationship for awhile anyway so he just had to go with it. When we spilt up. I would sometimes go off and say really nasty stuff to him and i never wanted to see him again. This girl told me that this other girl put lollies down her bra and he had to eat them out. I was so jealous. I went into a rage. It was just rumours. I think he was with other girls when we spilt up. I didnt really care i was jealous about the lollies down the bra for some reason. Anyway, he said to me now you know how it feels.
My psych or case manager said alot of what i talk to her her about is typical of borderline personality.
I think thats why i am careful to get in another relationship again.
Does anyone want to go out with me?
Am I bad

I guess NT's aren't the only ones who "cheat"...