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It seems many people with intellectual disabilities can be more socially immature or inept than many (high-functioning) autistic people. Some autistics refer to people without autism but with an intellectual disability as neurotypical but I don't feel they are.

Today I met my partner's friend's daughter, a 24-year-old with a lifelong intellectual disability caused by Fecal Alcohol Syndrome, but isn't autistic. She lives with her dad, who looks after her because she is unable to function alone.
She showed me her phone and excitedly said that she has loads of friends on it, then showed me her contact list, which only had 4 people she considered friends; her dad, the lady who ran the MENCAP group, her social worker, and a girl with Downs syndrome who also attended the MENCAP group. But to her that was "loads of friends" and she was very proud.
She also has a strong attachment to toys and takes one of her dolls out with her. And she apparently really fancies this young man who lives next door and is the same age, and told me she wants to go out with him but doesn't know how to talk to him - even though he apparently is friendly to her but otherwise isn't interested, as he already has a girlfriend (I assume him and his girlfriend are neurotypicals).

So, yeah, people with intellectual disabilities struggle too and can be clueless of social norms, naive even. Also she doesn't like balloons because, as she said, "they make a loud noise". So she told me (in her little childlike voice) that she'll invite me to her next birthday party but that I mustn't bring any balloons. I promised I won't.

I actually felt neurotypical compared to her, me sitting with my partner chatting about normal adult subjects with her dad, such as work and money and shopping.
I did find the girl sweet though, and I will come to her birthday party, even though she wants to play 'musical chairs' and other childhood party games. But if me coming too will make her happy then that's nice.

Before anyone says "oh but the difference between intellectual disability and autism is that people with intellectual disabilities are still social", that isn't strictly true because it's implying that autistic people typically aren't social. I'm sociable for an Aspie, while I can be shy I still have a socially functioning mind that naturally makes me desire to be accepted and have friends, just as much (if not more) than this girl with a learning disability. In fact I seem to function more in the neurotypical world than she does.

Correct me if I'm wrong but fetal alcohol syndrome is itself a type of neurovidergance, and as we know many neurovidegancies share similarities.

I've been sick with Novovirus. I had stuff coming out of both ends last night. It wasn't very pleasant. That's why you didn't see me on here today. I've been drinking more fluids than Carter has pills, yet I haven't got much in the #1 department. It's not bloody hell, I'm sick. It's extra time for me to appreciate my own little country.

The regional weather man looks like someone's drawn a moustache on him

Does everyone get a wrinkly back of the head because you only really see it on men when they've gone bald

Some people live in dreadful conditions

It's like there's a whole other world that we don't see

I wish I was by the coast right now

I've lived in Southport for about 8 years in the past and it is a nice place to be.

I love Southport mate
I love ainsdale beach as well

Once stayed at Pontins in Ainsdale for a couple of days when I had drug dealer neighbours in Southport and was waiting for a new flat.

Yeah it's right there next to the beach

We used to stay on the beach all night making fires in my drinking days
I loved it

I hate any song that sounds like the common playground taunt. Except for "We're Going To Spain" by The Krankies because, well, they're kranky.

Can you still get Sindy dolls or has Barbie seen her off

I need to buzz my bonce.