Does your family have epic feuds??

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Mine does. On my dad's side...there are some aunts that having talked to each other for 20 years. they had some crazy feuds on that side of the family that lasted for generations like kids not talking to parrents for 30 years over money issues and folks shooting the christmas tree ornaments off the Christmas tree. My mom's side is so normal that they are scary, well except for mom...she is kinda the black sheep in a big way...always have been, but they still dont feud over that though.
My dad's side, I would not say they are aspie, but they couild be....no proof of that though.

I was just wondering out of curosity and if the feuds happen on the side where the ASD's are most present, or not

Neither side of my family has a history of ASD, but my family has crazy feuds.

Just this week my grandmother fed me this tale about how a new member of our family (the younger sister of someone who married my cousin) has BOTH schizophrenia and dissociative identity disorder (multiple personalities) and has been permanently hospitalized after she tried to kill herself then ran away from home to live in the woods after threatening to kill her newborn half-sister and vandalizing the school's computer because she thinks she's part wolf. Oh, and she talked my brother into trying to fail school. It wasn't his ADHD that kept him from doing his homework, he was talked into it. And like the Aspie-minded dummy I am, I bought it.

And then my mom told me that these were all lies fed to my grandmother by my pathological liar aunt. Sure, my new cousin-type-person has some issues. Her parents were abusive, her dad died by dropping a lit cigarette on himself while drunk and she's been raised by her sister since her sister was sixteen. But she doesn't have schizophrenia or DID. And you don't help a kid by treating her like a monster like my grandmother proposes.

I shouldn't have been so surprised about these lies though. After all, this kind of stuff has been going on for years. My other aunt adopted a Hispanic baby who's never figured out that she's adopted. (We're all white. She's not the brightest crayon in the box, bless her heart.) You basically can't say a single thing about her without calling down the wrath of the entire family. For instance, when my sister was in elementary school she said something like "It's OK grandmother, I know she's adopted." My whole family was immediately kicked out of the house and we weren't allowed to any family events for months. Not that we're not regularly ignored and uninvited, but now we weren't invited to major things. Like Thanksgiving. Right now the adopted kid's 18 and dating a 27 year old. She's going off to Miami with him and such. And my mom dared to ask why someone said he was 24, another said he was 26, and nobody can get a straight story about where he's going to school. Now we're being ignored again because HOW DARE my mother question what the adopted cousin is doing when her three children are such disappointments. Yeah, we're the disappointments when I'm the only one who's ever done more than two years of college, my sister is an athletic A/B student, and my brother is practically a super genius...

So, yeah... Sorry for the unloading. Weird week. Just wanted to say that NT families can have some serious, serious issues too. I actually think if my family did have more ASD qualities they wouldn't be so screwed up. My family could use a dose of reason. They're delusional. Seriously f*****g delusional.

Not really, and I'm glad for that fact.
There are obviously arguments here and there, as there are in any family, but they would not be more appropriately described by the word "feuds", much less "epic" used as a word to modify that noun.

Epic to say the least.

My grandma has 3 kids (my mom, aunt, uncle) and when she had a stroke she was forced out of her home into a retirement home. Ever since then all 3 have been fiercely fighting over who should get the rights to the house, constant arguing (mostly shouting and name calling) My mom and uncle haven't spoken in over 5 years, and whenever we talk about them they just try to convince me they're right and so and so is wrong despite the fact that I could careless.

Good ole inheritance, tears families apart like nothing.

I've spoken to my father once in the past 7 years. It's a feud I guess. Also my great grandmother went 30 years without speaking to her brother.

Ah, my family is full of people who are angry, drunk, and too dumb to cope with it. I have a 40-50 years old aunt who waves kitchen knives at people, steals televisions, and refuses to let schools educate her son.

Before my aunt passed away, her youngest son - my cousin Chris didn't speak to her until she was on her death bed. My older cousin, Scott doesn't want anything to do with the family. My sister and I rub each other the wrong way like Dave Davies and Mick Avory of The Kinks did to each other. I've just started coming back around to my dad two years ago, after realizing that he was right about a lot of things, all those years ago.

nothing quite hits it home like a family member

My sister and I used to have these fueds for reasons I did not understand. She hated me because my dad told her that mom loves me more than her because of how much work she put into me untill I was into my twenties, She often called me a stupid b**** among other things. This did not get better untill mom told her that I have autism...and I guess it made sence as to why mom put so much effort into me. Mom tried to help her but she would always push mom away then lash out at her for not giving her the attention she needed. We all had a hard childhood because of the severity of my problems and because my dad was a vietnam vet that thought that a family should be raised like way he treated his privates when he was a drill sergant and to make matters worse, mom got very phyically ill after she fought so hard to riase me. I guess she was just tired.

But those on my father's side are all fighters and fueders...my mom's side, like to stick their head in the sand a pretend that problems dont exist.

yes. Nobody talks to each other.

I sometimes talk to my brother, but not much due to his ex wife. I don't get on with her due to me being Aspie and her being borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. So i will say a fact and she takes that as a personal attack.

I have not talked to my sister for over 3years and i doubt i will anytime soon. I don't know what is up with her but she and I have never got on. My mum always has blamed her behaviour on being aspie but she has none of the traits and she was never diagnosed with it but has been seeing a physiologist since she was 8. "Be nice to your sister, her Aspergers makes her that way." My arse it does.

My father will randomly call me once a year or something. It is sporadic contact when he does.

My mother and I had a falling out from my mother after my son was diagnosed with autism. We are only just talking again.

My father was a change of life baby so all my cousins had children before i was born.

I know how you feel on that one, a certain family member, not naming who, was diagnosed as a kid with borderline personality disorder and she takes everything I say or mom says as a personal attack. People with personality disorders can be very difficult to deal with because they are totally unable to see that they are the one with the problem. They are also very hard to treat because modern psychology depends on a person first recognizing that they have a problem in order to work with the therapist to change behaviors. This is rather impossible for those with personality disorders as the disorder contols their perspective on life events. They should be called "perspective disorders" to be more accurate.

My biological father is the same way, he calls very randomly, once or twice a year.

Sorry your family is so divided, hopefully you and your mom will get along better

As far as your sis...your mother making excuses for her like that, made her that way.

My sister and I have never got on as children we were always fighting and she was always yelling and screaming at me, we don't have the same interests either.
She has a manner that I don't like and talks down at me also she mocks me when I'm upset about something.
Its better that I don't see her very often as it stresses me out worrying what she's going to say in front of other people.

Maybe not epic, but I remember the thanksgiving before last we had to eat with just our immediate despite our extended family only living few miles away because my grandma and mom were arguing about jury duty on Christmas (which she got out of thankfully).

My (likely) AS uncle and his brother haven't spoken in 12 years. My mom also had a very long fight (in my house) with my grandmother over a complication with grandpa. There have also been a few other problems (but they haven't left very severe marks) on my mothers side.

My dad's side, however, never seems to have any big feuds.

Oh yeah, and my house has fights daily.

Currently in a feud with my father.

My dad's side of the family all seem to dislike each other. Apparently their is always tons of drama/fighting going on but I just stay far far away. I haven't seen anyone from that side of my family for over a year... and before that it was probably two years or so. I know it is apparently pretty bad but I just completely ignore it all. None of my cousins or aunts ever seemed to like me anyway...