Wedding planning.
I'm 5500+ miles away from my partner and from where I'll be getting married - I have no date to work with until documents come through, no budget to work to, and of course being so far away I have no idea where to buy things or how much they'll cost. I want it all planned NOW but instead I'm stuck unable to plan anything, I don't like being stuck like this in limbo.
I can't get anyone to give me the information I need - I don't even know what information I need. Venue gives me an amount but no information about what it includes, it's also a huge cost so not even sure it's doable but then I love the idea of getting married there. When I email vendors or wedding planners I'm very clear in what I want and what I'm asking but rather then estimated costs I just get questions back, they expect me to give them a date, or worse vendors insisting I don't want what I ask for. I just don't know how to communicate with these people to get the information I need to plan a wedding, I don't understand why people can't answer questions or do as asked.
American's are like rainbow covered carebears on crack...customer service seems to include vomiting rainbows on you. Things like weddings are inherently girly things so when you contact vendors you get 'OMG I'm so happy for you...tell me like all about your dress...you must be so happy....we're so excited for you...blah blah blah' so added American enthusiasm is something I just can't cope with, I don't know how to talk to these people without seeming like a grouch for not being as fluffy as them. I'm not THAT kind of a woman.
Then there are other brides-to-be, when you try to go on wedding forums for help you get them all judging you...it's like being a parent, everyone has their own ideas and if yours differ they JUDGE. You try to find planning tips or check-lists for a simple wedding...nope, none...it's all two years in advance wedding folders and a million cut-out images of white dresses, white cakes, gaggles of bridesmaid. Is this really what women are supposed to be like? Spending their life uber-planning their wedding? Either way, apparently a wedding can't be anything but the perfect white wedding from a magazine - the slightest variation to this and they come after you with pitchforks.
I'm some horrible person if I don't want this;
I really can't do anything else to plan right now, which is driving me crazy - need partner to help, need dates set, need as budget, need concrete quotes, need the dress, etc. I need to know when I can plan properly - I actually also need a wedding planner because even if I can plan everything myself we still need someone to work logistics on the day. But then wedding planners are the queen bees of the carebears on crack spewing rainbows on me...they'll be all fake and try to talk to me small-talk about the 'big day' or will try to click with the couple by asking how we met and 'aw, aren't you both cute'...when I just want someone to plan stuff and that's that.
Vent over.
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