The "I'm not a hugger" thread.

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11 Dec 2011, 7:07 pm

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http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt64018.html

What if you're NOT a hugger?

Shouldn't there be a thread for us?

I don't mind hugging my wife and kids, and a few choice other family members, but the thought of hugging even a good friend, or worse, a complete stranger (which, let's face it, all of you are to me) gives me a genuinely uncomfortable feeling. I can't be the only one here like this.

A verbal "handshake" is okay with me though.

How about you?

If you aren't into hugs, what's the limit of your comfort zone?

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11 Dec 2011, 10:08 pm

I'm not into all that hugging business either I don't like the feeling of being crowded I like my personal space.
I've never liked being touched I stiffen up if anyone does touch me.
I think this new trend of everyone hugging is so overdone and then they're offended if you don't like it.

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11 Dec 2011, 10:35 pm

Unless I'm dating the person, I don't want any hugs.

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11 Dec 2011, 11:33 pm

I'm okay with virtual hugs. ^_^

The real kind, though, I rarely want or need. When I say rarely, I mean once or twice every couple of months.

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12 Dec 2011, 12:28 am

Jory wrote:

Unless I'm dating the person, I don't want any hugs.

Yepp.

I'm fine with hand shakes, though.

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12 Dec 2011, 1:21 am

A scratch under my chin or in hard to reach places on my back is a lot more enjoyable.

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12 Dec 2011, 1:30 am

sluice wrote:

A scratch under my chin or in hard to reach places on my back is a lot more enjoyable.

What are you doing later? :heart:

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12 Dec 2011, 1:34 am

flea dip :hic:

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12 Dec 2011, 3:33 am

I agree. I always feel totally awkward when someone in the room is a "hugger" and wants to hug me. It's difficult to explain that it's not them, but me and my feelings/sensitivity. And I'm really not looking to announce, "I'm Autistic" to everyone. I usually try to head things off by offering a handshake (not my thing either, but easier than hugs), hoping that will be preemptive enough to satisfy them.

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12 Dec 2011, 5:46 am

A few months ago I was hugged by a co-worker who has been very supportive. It was unexpected, and I tried woodenly to reciprocate, my hairs felt like they were standing on end. I find myself reliving the experience with some discomfort.

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12 Dec 2011, 10:36 am

I personally dislike hugs, but as TEGH said, virtual ones are all right.

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12 Dec 2011, 11:01 am

i only like sexual hugs. or hugs when i'm so overcome with some other emotion that i forget to care

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12 Dec 2011, 1:36 pm

I find real life hugs rather uncomfortable for a few reasons, but sometimes I do crave one. I think that virtual hugs are nice.

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12 Dec 2011, 1:47 pm

I always interpret them as a massive invasion of my personal space.

I'm kinda OK with virtual hugs though.

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12 Dec 2011, 2:49 pm

I'm OK with virtual hugs. In real life there's only a couple of people that I'm comfortable hugging. I dislike hugs from anyone else. Any form of touching, really.
However, I like hugs when I'm in love.

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12 Dec 2011, 5:04 pm

Huh. I'm surprised at how many are okay with virtual hugs but not real ones. Is it odd that I feel the same about both? :shrug:

I think I'm actually more uncomfortable with the virtual.

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