Men referring to other men as handsome.

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It's perfectly acceptable for women to refer to other women as pretty and no one bats an eyelash if one does, however if a man refers to another man as handsome people might think he's gay. Why this double standard? Yes, a heterosexual man can tell if another man is good looking without being sexually attracted to him, just like heterosexual women can tell if other women are good looking.

I've heard of a mancrush.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define. ... m=mancrush

I heard 1ce that it's because women are more bi than guys tend to be

Women can dance with other women, but men cant dance with men. And the quest for beauty is something women coach each other about in a way that men don't.

Foreign men who don't speak English well will do that though. The members of the Black South African singing group Ladysmith Black Mambazo were on the TV screen with their American collaborator Paul Simon, and they praised Simon for, among other things, being "handsome". Which sounded quaint and clunky to my American ears.

Was talking to a guy on another website who happened to be a Francophone Canadian. He told me that I was "quite handsome" which was doubly odd because I had never posted a pic of myself on the site. I corrected him and suggested that he meant that I was "very charming"(which is probably what the South African guys actually meant about Paul Simon). The French Canadian guy agreed that that was what he meant.

I agree that this double standard exists and that it ought not to. On the other hand, I've observed some very masculine, unquestionably heterosexual men (some of them in my own family and circle of friends) commenting quite freely that they think other men are good-looking. I think people from all sorts of backgrounds vary widely in how seriously they take this unspoken 'code'.

Personally, when I hear a man refer to another man as 'handsome' or 'good-looking', I never think anything of it. I find that neither of them are especially loaded terms, and that (unless they are said in a very specific context) they don't carry implications that the speaker has any personal feelings of attraction.. the male equivalent of a word like 'pretty' or 'bonny', maybe. If a guy takes issue with the term, I'm inclined to question how secure he is in his masculinity.

I find Raleigh handsome

Of course I find plenty of other men handsome, and it has nothing to do with sexuality. For one thing, I envy most men their looks and have major self image issues because of it.

I don't have any problem with men saying that to each other.

I think Raleigh does look handsome in his avatar... and very cool.

Great tats!