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25 Jun 2019, 6:32 pm

Have you ever been in a situation where you’re told you’re not grasping what the other person’s saying, and yet at the same time they’re not grasping what you’re saying?


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25 Jun 2019, 6:35 pm

Sometimes...


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25 Jun 2019, 6:38 pm

Plenty of times.


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25 Jun 2019, 7:28 pm

All the time.


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25 Jun 2019, 7:30 pm

all of the time.



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25 Jun 2019, 7:45 pm

ditto.



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25 Jun 2019, 7:51 pm

yep

and it makes you question your sanity.


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25 Jun 2019, 7:52 pm

SaveFerris wrote:
yep

and it makes you question your sanity.


It's like being gaslighted when people aren't actually trying to gaslight you.


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25 Jun 2019, 7:55 pm

firemonkey wrote:
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re told you’re not grasping what the other person’s saying, and yet at the same time they’re not grasping what you’re saying?
"Talking Across Each-Other"? Yeah, lots of times. Even worse is when we're both arguing over who is right, and I suddenly realize that we're both saying the same thing, but in different ways.


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25 Jun 2019, 7:56 pm

Fnord wrote:
firemonkey wrote:
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re told you’re not grasping what the other person’s saying, and yet at the same time they’re not grasping what you’re saying?
"Talking Across Each-Other"? Yeah, lots of times. Even worse is when we're both arguing over who is right, and I suddenly realize that we're both saying the same thing, but in different ways.

that was me and my late mom. :oops:



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25 Jun 2019, 7:56 pm

TheRevengeofTW1ZTY wrote:
SaveFerris wrote:
yep

and it makes you question your sanity.


It's like being gaslighted when people aren't actually trying to gaslight you.


When you are anxious/paranoid it definitely feels this way


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25 Jun 2019, 8:07 pm

auntblabby wrote:
Fnord wrote:
firemonkey wrote:
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re told you’re not grasping what the other person’s saying, and yet at the same time they’re not grasping what you’re saying?
"Talking Across Each-Other"? Yeah, lots of times. Even worse is when we're both arguing over who is right, and I suddenly realize that we're both saying the same thing, but in different ways.
that was me and my late mom.
Yeah, it's like they're thinking, "I know I'm right, so you must be wrong, regardless of what you say!"


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25 Jun 2019, 8:13 pm

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auntblabby wrote:
Fnord wrote:
firemonkey wrote:
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re told you’re not grasping what the other person’s saying, and yet at the same time they’re not grasping what you’re saying?
"Talking Across Each-Other"? Yeah, lots of times. Even worse is when we're both arguing over who is right, and I suddenly realize that we're both saying the same thing, but in different ways.
that was me and my late mom.
Yeah, it's like they're thinking, "I know I'm right, so you must be wrong, regardless of what you say!"

couldn't win. the pattern followed me the rest of my life. so i clammed up and became a hermit.



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25 Jun 2019, 8:19 pm

Fnord wrote:
firemonkey wrote:
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re told you’re not grasping what the other person’s saying, and yet at the same time they’re not grasping what you’re saying?
"Talking Across Each-Other"? Yeah, lots of times. Even worse is when we're both arguing over who is right, and I suddenly realize that we're both saying the same thing, but in different ways.


It's on the National autistic society forums and is a thread about the use of IQ to categorise people on the spectrum and judge functioning levels.

The point where we,especially, part company is how prevalent it is for psychologists to use IQ as a primary means of judging a person's level of functioning .


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