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Lost_dragon
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18 Aug 2019, 8:43 am

I'm usually only comfortable with them if it's with someone I'm close to, and even then it's no guarantee that I'll feel alright with it. Soft, gentle hugs are preferable. I sometimes freak out when people hug me. Unfortunately, my claustrophobia is currently quite bad. So when people who I'm less familiar with hug me, especially tightly or in a firm way, I have been known to panic and push them away.

Sometimes I miss a time where I didn't feel this way about hugs. I'd like to become more comfortable with them again. Freaking out like I do isn't fun. I want to be hugged, but at the same time it terrifies me. So yeah, that's not fun. I tend to tense up when I'm hugged. Although, I'm trying to work on it. I'm planning to talk to someone about this.

How about you?


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18 Aug 2019, 9:01 am

I like them from family and close friends.



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18 Aug 2019, 9:10 am

I generally dislike them. I prefer handshakes with men, and a kiss to the back of the hand with women.



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18 Aug 2019, 4:10 pm

I went through a "no hugging" phase as a kid, even with my family. But I'm ok with it now.



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18 Aug 2019, 10:50 pm

I'm anti-affectionate & dislike hugging everyone except I love affection with my girlfriend & did with both my exes & LOVE hugging them.


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19 Aug 2019, 6:59 am

When I was stressed out as a kid my dad hugged me from behind, giving me the same comfort as a pressure vest. I do not go in for traditional hugs.



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19 Aug 2019, 9:15 am

I like hugs.
I experience connection to other people mainly through touch.
When I hug someone, I feel the tension of their muscle and it tells me a lot.


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19 Aug 2019, 10:21 am

Don't mind any touch. Just more preferable not to.


I like it if someone very close to me does it. :skull: Or something/someone I can seriously squeee at.
Otherwise, it'll feel like I'm putting up with it more. Like I'm the one putting distances as distant as possible, in attempts of remaining detached.


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19 Aug 2019, 10:22 am

I don’t like them.


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19 Aug 2019, 8:28 pm

Nope


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19 Aug 2019, 8:31 pm

Used to hate them, like I'd jump back if anyone tried to hug me and if they somehow got hold of me I'd be stiff like a corpse and would not resiioper recip, I wouldn't hug back.

My friend taught me to hug and now it's my greeting with people I know and I love it.



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19 Aug 2019, 8:38 pm

I am not anti hugging.



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19 Aug 2019, 8:46 pm

I like them. My BFF did not up until her 30s, and now gives great hugs! --- at least for her closest huggy friends. I took my daughter's stiff response to hugs as her not wanting them, but I need to check that out - I may be missing opportunities. (She enjoys massages.)



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19 Aug 2019, 9:39 pm

I have neither an aversion to them, nor an affinity for them. I seldom initiate then but will generally oblige to appease the other person if they wish to have a hug.

My attitude about hugs in a romantic context is very different, but those aren't ever the hugs on offer. I sometimes go to bed wishing I had someone to hug up against.



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20 Aug 2019, 1:15 pm

I love hugs. They make me feel warm, green and fuzzy inside. :mrgreen:


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20 Aug 2019, 5:16 pm

SharonB wrote:
I like them. My BFF did not up until her 30s, and now gives great hugs! --- at least for her closest huggy friends. I took my daughter's stiff response to hugs as her not wanting them, but I need to check that out - I may be missing opportunities. (She enjoys massages.)


I checked with my daughter who is seemingly unresponsive or stiff when I hug her - she wants more hugs. Thanks for the post: now to start repairing another parental fail. :wink: