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IsabellaLinton
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09 May 2020, 10:54 pm

Yes, a couple of times but both were long ago.

Would you rather go bowling or mini golfing?


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09 May 2020, 10:55 pm

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I'm agoraphobic so walking anywhere in daylight would be a huge no.


That is true had not considered that
Except I feel, having to do it regularly out of necessity, it would force me, and then over time fade away...


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09 May 2020, 10:56 pm

blooiejagwa wrote:
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I'm agoraphobic so walking anywhere in daylight would be a huge no.


That is true had not considered that
Except I feel, having to do it regularly out of necessity, it would force me, and then over time fade away...


Mine will never fade. I have a hard time even putting the trash bin outside if it's not pitch dark.


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09 May 2020, 10:59 pm

Mini golfing because it is a good way to bond with someone as it can become hilarious. With bowling it does not hold the same amount of variability that would help with feeling closer to someone as a friend.

XH and I did mini golf 3 times at least, before that I went mini golfing with my dad when I was about 10 years old
XH loved going bowling with me whenever he could--but I only went cuz of him, because it is way too loud and noisy in bowling alleys and there are all kinds of smells.



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Re: agoraphobia - mine only fades when I know it is urgent relating to kids and even then there is a mini meltdown afterwards or a huge meltdown beforehand.. so i guess you are right. But therapists make it seem like it is totally possible.


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09 May 2020, 11:06 pm

For putting trash bin outside at night, the raccoons get into it and create a big mess here. However if it is possible in your area, that is good.
What I do for that now is stim like crazy shamelessly flapping which I prefer to call shaking my hands, as flapping sounds patronizing, while taking out the trash or any such activity.

Even grocery shopping. I do not care what anyone thinks anymore as without blatant stimming, it is a nearly insurmountable task. Anyway I have seen gangster looking boys who everyone thinks are cool, stim openly, and nobody made fun of them for it.


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09 May 2020, 11:20 pm

Re: Agoraphobia -- I can manage some daylight activities if I'm with another person. I'm still extremely self-conscious and terrified the whole time, but it's much better than being alone. Of course sometimes I have no choice and just do what I have to do, but driving is wayyyy better than having to walk somewhere. I've taken Uber just to go around the corner from my house if I don't have my car and need to walk somewhere alone in daylight.

I'm not a handflapper but I certainly stim with my hands in other ways if I'm in public. I twirl around a lot too, or go on my tiptoes. I can't just stand still. I've even been known to sit down on the floor in public rather than just stand still when I'm waiting my turn.

I would pick bowling if I could go to the glow in the dark type and if there weren't a lot of people there. Mini golf is nice too, though. It reminds me of my first bf so that's kind of awkward.

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09 May 2020, 11:24 pm

yes. however due to my tendencies... to overdo things.. i would always end up with bleeding gums.
same with brushing teeth.

recently (last couple of years) i became more mature about it.

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09 May 2020, 11:29 pm

blooiejagwa wrote:
i became more mature about it.


:hail: Sounds like me! Everything to exponential extremes!

Do you have big feet?


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09 May 2020, 11:32 pm

no. my cousins do though (the ones mentioned earlier tonight). they look quite awkward to me (their feet and hands).
my brother has big feet but they look fine because they are in proportion.
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09 May 2020, 11:35 pm

Nope, my feet are actually about 1-2 sizes too small for my height.

Would you rather get a mani or a pedi?


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09 May 2020, 11:40 pm

neither... hate them both. had to get them for my wedding and it was the worst.
before, my cousins, who love to give them, kept forcing me and before they could finish even buffing my nails, i ran away every time.

subsequently tried to overcome fear and went for a manicure once, but the manicurist cut my finger (she was trimming my cuticles when i had asked her not to) which began bleeding.

she was trying to cover it so she would not get in trouble with her boss. i did not say anything, as i realized she was scared.

but that was the end.

i know you like them, so no offense.

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10 May 2020, 12:03 am

I don't do them often at all. Maybe once a year for a pedi, and even less often for a manicure.

I do my own pedis most of the time.

I don't love nail polish on my hands. It's a sensory thing.

Did you ever get a perm?


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10 May 2020, 12:08 am

No.

Do you write poetry at least once a year?



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10 May 2020, 12:12 am

Yeah just for my eyes though

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10 May 2020, 12:24 am

Yes

Do you write postcards at least once a year?


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10 May 2020, 2:32 am

The last few years, with the exception of last year I did.

Are you learning any new languages?