i am 16 and have a 3 MONTH OLD BABY GIRL

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Welcome puppylove22 and congratulations on being a mum.

I wish I'd become a dad earlier in my life because I'd have had more patience then (I think) and more stamina.

But...

If it was too early, I'm not sure if I'd have been ready or not.


I don't think it matters what age you are when you have a baby so long as you know when to get help and you have someone to fall back on sometimes.

For the first 6 months, babies are really easy but as they get more active, you'll find yourself less and less able to do things that you want to do. Everyone deserves time-out, so if possible, get baby minded a bit and "go out" for a bit of relaxation.

Kalister, I have an IQ of 163, if that sort of thing is important to you. What I couldn't handle in high school wasn't the education, although classes proceeded at a pace so glacial as to wear on the patience of Job himself - it was the other people, my so-called "peers". Or has it somehow escaped you, despite my mentioning it in (it sometimes seems) every third post on WP, that until 1994, when I was already in my thirties, there was no such thing as Asperger's Syndrome in the United States? (That came with the publication of DSM-IV, in 1994; the first published criteria, in ICD-10, came in 1991, but were not widely recognized in the US.) I wasn't "an Aspie" in high school, or "an autistic" - I was "a weirdo", and treated as such. This treatment has not relegated me to the position of "simpleton" in my life.

Or are you deliberately trolling, trying to annoy as many people as possible by calling them names for not matching your absolutist standards?

Quoting Kalister:

Kalister, you have stated, knowing nothing more about this girl than that she's 16 and has a 3-month-old child, that she will never be able to make anything of her life or that of her child. You assume she will be unable to graduate from high school; you assume that a) no "prestigious" university would touch her with a ten-meter cattle prod and b) without a degree from a "prestigious" university, she can never be anything more than a drone.

I advised you of three instances in which this proved not to be the case, and one prominent instance in which the schooling meant nothing. You, however, are apparently incapable of overcoming your own prejudices long enough to see that you can, indeed, be mistaken, and that you do not have sufficient information on which to judge this young girl and her future. You may make statements regarding what you believe her probable future to be, and escape criticism for that; however, you chose to issue a set of definite pronouncements, as if merely bearing a child at an early age had engraved her entire life in stone, with no possibility of change.

Rather, when confronted with facts, you choose to resort to argumentum ad hominem and non sequiter. This tells me that debating this issue (or pretty much any issue, really) with you is pointless - there can be no "debate" when one side is unwilling to justify his arguments.

On that note, good day, sir. I shall reserve my attention to this charming young lady who requires support, rather than to one whose primary interest seems to be tearing that support away.

I could say the same about your arguments.

Welcome to the site

I'm sure being a young mom isn't easy, especially with AS, but I hope you can find some comfort here on the forum with us.

K dude, even if you think that, it's not correct to express it, specially IN FRONT of the people you're talking about...

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Welcome to the forum! Best of luck to you and your child.

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