Page 1 of 2 [ 18 posts ]  Go to page 1, 2  Next

MotownDangerPants
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 13 May 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 955

02 Jun 2010, 11:56 am

Do you guys like touch during sex or cuddling? I love it, it's probably my favorite part of sex. I do hate being touched outside of that context or unexpectedly, though.



Peko
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,389
Location: Eastern PA, USA

02 Jun 2010, 3:03 pm

I don't like being touched, period. Its not too often that I'm fine with touching. Only way I'm okay with it is if the person asks/I'm warned ahead of time.


_________________
Balance is needed within the universe, can be demonstrated in most/all concepts/things. Black/White, Good/Evil, etc.
All dependent upon your own perspective in your own form of existence, so trust your own gut and live the way YOU want/need to.


musicislife
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Oct 2008
Age: 27
Gender: Female
Posts: 766
Location: whatever town, usa

02 Jun 2010, 3:08 pm

I love to cuddle with my boyfriend!! It's so nice to just relax with him holding me. :)


_________________
Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth. -Mark Twain
If life gives you lemons, make grape juice, sit back and watch the world wonder how you did it.


pinkbowtiepumps
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Mar 2008
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Posts: 574
Location: US

02 Jun 2010, 11:21 pm

I'm probably one of the few people here who doesn't like being touched. I feel like I'm being tickled, which for the guy I'm lying with can be awkward. I don't like most foreplay other than kissing.

I'd like to lie there with a guy, rest my head on him for a while. It's nice.



poopylungstuffing
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Mar 2007
Age: 43
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,618
Location: Snapdragon Ridge

03 Jun 2010, 12:03 am

I can be uncomfortable with having my stomach touched..and my ex-partner used to joke about how bad it was that there was such a large percentage of my body that I didn't like having touched..

I am not sure how much of my current issues have to do with sensory issues and how much can be attributed to my own lack of confidence...

I can stand to be touched if there is not a sense of teasing or revulsion involved....any place but my stomach... :(



astaut
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 2 Sep 2009
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,777
Location: Southeast US

03 Jun 2010, 12:39 am

I like touch from a significant other very much. It usually bother me in other contexts, but I can usually tolerate it.



Rose_in_Winter
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Sep 2009
Age: 42
Gender: Female
Posts: 740
Location: Kansas City, MO

03 Jun 2010, 6:27 am

It's kind of hard to have sex without touching...I enjoy sex and I enjoy the physical closeness as well as the emotional closeness. I also like to cuddle my husband after any kind of sexual intimacy, but any other time is iffy. I will initiate cuddling if I want it but he has to let go the minute I say I'm uncomfortable with it. He will ask if I want to cuddle, but he knows better than to just touch me without warning. In general I don't like being touched, and never ever without my permission.



aspiemomNY
Butterfly
Butterfly

User avatar

Joined: 2 Jun 2010
Gender: Female
Posts: 11

03 Jun 2010, 8:48 am

I can't stand it, resist it... but I also have visions of the saliva staying on the touched area permanently and i can 'see' it for a few days later.



Peko
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,389
Location: Eastern PA, USA

03 Jun 2010, 10:14 am

I wish we had little glowing lights in our skin that signal "touch now" or "do not touch"...


_________________
Balance is needed within the universe, can be demonstrated in most/all concepts/things. Black/White, Good/Evil, etc.
All dependent upon your own perspective in your own form of existence, so trust your own gut and live the way YOU want/need to.


greenlandgem
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 4 Dec 2008
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 125

03 Jun 2010, 11:18 pm

I really, really dislike being touched, though admittedly it has gotten better as I've gotten older. But I still have to block it out a little bit when I'm sleeping with someone, which might be why sex doesn't exactly blow me away. And I DESPISE the cuddling afterward, or even unrelated cudding - skin on skin contact is so sticky and horrid and makes me feel greasy and claustrophobic. I even sleep in full-length jammies so my own limbs don't touch each other while I sleep! It can be a bit of an awkward problem to address with a new person. :?



anomie
Sea Gull
Sea Gull

User avatar

Joined: 22 Jan 2010
Age: 41
Gender: Female
Posts: 201

05 Jun 2010, 8:41 am

I actually think that I might have to split up with my partner because he needs a lot of touching and cuddling in both directions and if I cringe when he touches me it is extremely emotionally painful for him as he experiences it as rejection.

I've talked to him about it and he tries to be understanding about it but the communication through touch is a fundamental need for him.

My nipples have always been overly sensitive and it has gotten worse over the years to the point where sometimes I cannot realax while having sex for the fear that he might inadvertently brush against them.

I am sad about this gap betwen what he needs and what I can provide. I think we might have to split up because I worry about it every day and so does he and neither of us can see any way to make it better.



happymusic
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 10 Feb 2010
Age: 44
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,165
Location: still in ninja land

05 Jun 2010, 10:26 am

Touch during sex is great - I like my hair and hips/waist to be touched especially. Other than that though, I don't usually want to cuddle and touching for the sake of touching is just distracting.



Peko
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,389
Location: Eastern PA, USA

08 Jun 2010, 1:01 pm

anomie wrote:
I actually think that I might have to split up with my partner because he needs a lot of touching and cuddling in both directions and if I cringe when he touches me it is extremely emotionally painful for him as he experiences it as rejection.

I've talked to him about it and he tries to be understanding about it but the communication through touch is a fundamental need for him.

My nipples have always been overly sensitive and it has gotten worse over the years to the point where sometimes I cannot realax while having sex for the fear that he might inadvertently brush against them.

I am sad about this gap betwen what he needs and what I can provide. I think we might have to split up because I worry about it every day and so does he and neither of us can see any way to make it better.


Have you asked him to try wearing gloves? A thin piece or cloth between skin helps me deal with casual contact. Or you could try directing him in what kind of pressure you need and than try to give him whatever he needs at the same time.


_________________
Balance is needed within the universe, can be demonstrated in most/all concepts/things. Black/White, Good/Evil, etc.
All dependent upon your own perspective in your own form of existence, so trust your own gut and live the way YOU want/need to.


Greenmouse
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 29 May 2010
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 167
Location: Quebec, Canada

08 Jun 2010, 2:31 pm

I'm really affectuous and I really like to cuddle and with the significant other. It makes me feel so well.



rx7chick
Butterfly
Butterfly

User avatar

Joined: 13 Jun 2010
Age: 71
Gender: Female
Posts: 9

14 Jun 2010, 5:01 am

I have hated being touched. Doctors are the worst and just the thought of it makes me queasy and frightened. I avoid doctors to the point I will be sick rather than let them touch me, and I always go to female doctors when I get something I cannot manage. I always hated sex and sometimes felt like I was going to puke. I had 4 marriages, to unkind men, and I could not stand even to smell them. I was accused of being "sick" or being frigid. I just got out of a 30 year marriage that was toxic from day one, but I assumed the problems were mine, because I was so complicated. I never had problems holding or cuddling my children. And I can hug and accept hugs, but beyond that, can't stand it unless it is totally my choice. I have a lover now whom I adore and I am enjoying it for the first time in my life. I don't know why this particular man affected me this way, but I am totally at ease with him and our physicality.
Carolyn