What do I do?

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I have a friend who is getting married, and I am one of the bride's maids in the wedding and it seems like I have been upset with her for the last 7 months that she has been getting ready for the wedding. She often feels that whenever we get together, I seemed to be getting upset. I often feel like the odd girl out because I am younger than she and most of her friends. I also feel like whenever we have gotten together the last several times that I have been angry with her.

For example, this was about 3 months ago, I was set to meet her and another close friend of ours and a casual friend of mine at a performing arts center where I go to school. I had appeared to get there early and I gave this casual friend a call to let them know that I had arrived. As it turned out, they got there early and decided to go out to lunch first. I didn't have any money and I was also mad at my friend for having some to go out to eat. She had also spent the night at my condo a week before but really didn't want to do much because she wasn't feeling well, however, when he financee showed up, she seemed to put on a smile and jumped for joy out the door to go to dinner with him.

How do I handle this?

Stop hanging out with her?
If all she does is annoy you and make you miserable stop putting yourself in that situation.

I suspect you might be experiencing some natural jealousy on the thought of your share of your friend's time being reduced after her marriage, and that makes these "already being left out" situations even more difficult. As best you can, try to be happy for your friend and continue to cherish the times you actually *can* spend together as she moves along in her own life.