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03 Sep 2011, 7:54 am

I don't drive and don't plan taking driving classes - at least in the near future, until I'm rich enough to buy my own car. I would be too afraid of getting someone else's car crashed. Plus driving seems too complicated for me.



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04 Sep 2011, 1:52 am

When I first learned to drive, at 19, it was a disaster. I was fine on an empty, two-lane country highway, but in the city with other drivers and lane changing etc, I could not cope. The use of the mirrors was particularly stressful for me: I just couldn't believe the image in the mirror, I would have to turn around and see for myself what was there. And I really couldn't take the people honking at me. I was perpetually on the verge of shutdown/meltdown. I was relieved when I failed my driving test and swore I would never drive again.

When I was about 28, I started thinking about driving again, and for some reason I can now handle it. I got my license without any problem a couple years ago, and now I really enjoy driving. At first I still didn't like the mirror aspect, but I "decided to believe" what I saw in them, and now I'm used to it. Of course there are many stressful parts of driving, like the aggressive drivers on the road, but I guess I don't hold myself responsible for their reactions anymore. When I was younger I assumed that all people could and should be reasonable, but now I've accepted that they're mostly ridiculous.

I absolutely detest GPS, but fortunately I have a good sense of direction and rarely get lost. I like to plan out my route on a map before I leave, to avoid stress. If I do go the wrong way, I get stressed out and meltdowny, but not as much as I used to.



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15 Sep 2011, 2:08 am

I don't drive....tried somewhat briefly at ages 18 an 21. Thing is driving is a sensory nightmare! There are WAY too many things to focus on at once. I could drive on empty roads if I had to but what is the point of that? It's not like I had anxiety about doing that either, I just found it boring. But take me on to a busy road, or really any road other than a straight empty road, an I have no idea what to do. I can't turn - there's not enough time for my brain to tell my body to do it!
There's just too many cars, I can't react fast enough, I can't think fast enough. WAY overwhelming. Anyone else have these processing/sensory overload issues with driving?


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15 Sep 2011, 12:02 pm

KathySilverstein wrote:
I don't drive....tried somewhat briefly at ages 18 an 21. Thing is driving is a sensory nightmare! There are WAY too many things to focus on at once. I could drive on empty roads if I had to but what is the point of that? It's not like I had anxiety about doing that either, I just found it boring. But take me on to a busy road, or really any road other than a straight empty road, an I have no idea what to do. I can't turn - there's not enough time for my brain to tell my body to do it!
There's just too many cars, I can't react fast enough, I can't think fast enough. WAY overwhelming. Anyone else have these processing/sensory overload issues with driving?

I used to but I got used to it. I am a fairly good driver and if I had a car now, I would love the freedom to just get up and go.


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15 Sep 2011, 12:38 pm

I can't even imagine piloting a car myself. The thought of it terrifies me to my core. I don't even like being a passenger!



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15 Sep 2011, 1:43 pm

I am a newly qualified driver and I hate it. I find driving really stressful and nervewracking. :(

But reading through the experiences of some of the drivers in this thread has given me hope that it will get easier as time goes on!



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16 Sep 2011, 12:29 pm

I'm ok as long as I'm driving on familiar rodes and I know where I'm going. I absolutely refuse to drive downtown or in other areas of heavy traffic, lots of lane changes, etc.

I also hate parking lots. There is just too much going on at once. Cars backing out, coming in from all directions, pedestrians....too much to be looking out for. I remember a few years ago I had gone to a movie at one of those huge multi-plexes and it seemed there was a non-stop flow of people and cars either coming or going. I swear, I must've sat in my car for 15 minutes or longer waiting for the chaos to subside. I thought I was going to have to call my husband to come and get me up because there was no way I was going to try to back out in the midst of that mess. Fortunately, it did die down and I was able to make it out, but now I try to go during the day when it's less crowded.



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03 Oct 2011, 6:53 pm

This is a bit of a rant, but I think I know that when I'm in an up cycle - as in not as depressed - I drive really badly. 8O Today I got honked at twice, even though I thought I was being careful as usual.
This is strange, I thought it'd be the other way around. But no: when I am "neutral" or depressed, I can drive pretty well just scared all the time.
I guess it's a good thing I know this now and will be extra careful going to town when I'm hyper. yikes. I really don't like cars. Wouldn't it be great if we all rode bikes and bike trucks and trikes instead.


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03 Oct 2011, 7:01 pm

mntn13 wrote:
This is a bit of a rant, but I think I know that when I'm in an up cycle - as in not as depressed - I drive really badly. 8O Today I got honked at twice, even though I thought I was being careful as usual.
This is strange, I thought it'd be the other way around. But no: when I am "neutral" or depressed, I can drive pretty well just scared all the time.
I guess it's a good thing I know this now and will be extra careful going to town when I'm hyper. yikes. I really don't like cars. Wouldn't it be great if we all rode bikes and bike trucks and trikes instead.

I fancy the idea of horses and carriages. 8)


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03 Oct 2011, 7:08 pm

Yeah! horses, carriages, nice, quiet clippity cloppity sounds at most. great idea hartzofspace.
On the plus side of my day, I made it home with my truck full of yummy food and filtered water enough to last a couple weeks.
So now, am gloriously free of trips to nasty crowded noisy stores for awhile.



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03 Oct 2011, 7:50 pm

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Yeah! horses, carriages, nice, quiet clippity cloppity sounds at most. great idea hartzofspace.
On the plus side of my day, I made it home with my truck full of yummy food and filtered water enough to last a couple weeks.
So now, am gloriously free of trips to nasty crowded noisy stores for awhile.

:cheers:


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07 Oct 2011, 4:06 pm

I have had driving lessons when I was 18 but that was a disaster. The driving instructor was quite relieved when I finally quit. I still don't drive and that's probably for the best.



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07 Oct 2011, 11:01 pm

I am so glad I am not alone in this. When I was 16 almost 17 my younger sister was already driving and I had actually be kicked out of driver's education. The other kids refused to ride with me after I almost hit a dilapidated building. I thought I'd never be free to go somewhere without my parents. Then I dated a guy when I was in my 20's who didn't drive either, so we bicycled everywhere. I learned how to handle the distractions that way. Then when he and I broke up after 3 years, I finally got my dad to work with me in empty parking lots, and after taking the test 2 times, I finally got my licence when I was 22. Then I only drove to work and church. If the road was being worked on I was a mess. If I got separate from the person I was following to somewhere I'd never been I was a mess, if I missed my exit, I was a mess. I am now 35 and have finally been five years without a ticket or accident. I still need google maps or GPS to go anywhere I've not been more than 2 times, but at least when there is a detour I can find my way around, and highways don't freak me out as much anymore. So I say if you want to do it, stick with it and find a mall that has closed down and just practice. ( where I live there are a lot of dead malls). As a side note, I have an 80 something year old great aunt who is NT and never learned to drive, so some folks just aren't drivers AS or otherwise.



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08 Oct 2011, 3:44 am

driving my car is one of my favorite things ! FREEDOM ! open roads, music on, ooh..
I drive since 1998 and drove plenty, never had an accident. Never got into an accident either because I have my radar on all the time.

I do yell and get frustrated a lot when people are driving like insane maniacs..
I don't like it when I have to hassle with busy traffic or going shopping with mum, meaning having to stop somewhere you're not allowed to stop and then I have to wait and watch the perimeter to see whether parking guards are near :evil: THAT I hate.



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08 Oct 2011, 5:15 pm

I never even got my license for various reasons but I think it would be a really bad idea for me to drive. I don't even want to. I'd probably be running into things and people. I also get carsick a lot.