Looking for some other female college-aged aspies

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I'm just trying to find some like-minded people. I go to some of the GRASP support groups, but the problem is that they're typically older males and I find it hard to fit in. Usually they're talking about divorces and getting fired from jobs. Some of them make me a bit uncomfortable because I'm usually the only female. There's a women's only group near my house, but again I'd like to talk about age-related topics. Things like executive functioning in an academic environment, how to get into grad school, how to learn social skills relevant to our age group...

Is there anyone else facing the same difficulty? Anyone near Chicago?

I have the same issues, but I live on another continent.

The female aspies I know are either much younger or much older. I do not know any my own age. Considering how few are diagnosed, I am not really very surprised by it. I think it would be difficult to pull a group of them together in the one city. But the executive functioning issues within academic life is something I am all too familiar with.

Yep, unfortunately you're probably right. I posted this because I'm tired of socially inept male aspies annoying me. The same pattern has been happening to me since high school. The more they stalk, the more I'd rather not be their friends. It's the unfortunate side effect of the gender ratio.

My main problem is I have a hard time recognizing when a guy is romantically interested in me and when a guy is just interested in being friends. I usually assume the latter because I consider myself to be a very amicable person. When you combine that with the fact that they also can't tell the difference between romance and friendship, it just never goes right.

Anyway, I have a skype account with the same user name if you'd like to chat.

Yeah I a college aged aspie female but...I'm not near Chicago. I dont have any aspie friends. There was an aspie group that used to be running but it was pretty lame, it was more like being in elementary school for an hour. I just replied because the issues your facing seems relevant to me.

I was thinking of maybe starting some sort of group specifically for college-aged females. Even if it's just online, it's better than nothing.

Im the ONLY aspie whose 20 in my real life group. Plus ALL the aspies that I know are alot older then me or way too young. I feel trapped.

I've had the exact same problem in the past that you just described.

I have skype, but not right now. I also don't think you would be able to understand my spoken english that easily. It might be better to keep this thread as a mini-group for college ages female aspies and that way if things are relevant, others might join in from time to time.

Yeah I can see what you mean. It's hard to find female aspies who are going through the same life stages as us, is that what you mean?

Well, if you ever wanted to talk, I'd be happy to chat online, but I don't live in the Chicago area.

If all goes as well, I'll be starting college in January at UW-Milwaukee. We can chat if you want to.

Cool! I have to go to Milwaukee about once every two weeks.

Great! I'm tired of listening to divorce stories from middle-aged men.

I'm working on an arts degree at the moment, and I'd be happy to talk online. I live all the way in New Zealand though.

i went to a support group at my college and all the aspie guys awkardly hit on me. i got involved with one guy there it was terrible! i dont want to see him again so i didnt go back.
beofre that i hated the support group i went to and rebelled against it and broke it up it was for teens but they treated us like kids and were very rigid.

as i grow older i mature faster and feel more different from everyone my age. i also cant afford a car so i cant do anything fun by myself,and my boyfriend cant afford to do anything .

ive always wanted a female friends with AS.

unfortunatly most girls ive met have been undiagnosed and were suffering.

Technically I'm a little old for the "college-aged" as I'm 28, but I'm a current postgrad student so does that count? *looks hopeful and pleading* Now I've been formally diagnosed I'm thinking of setting up a female-AS group at my uni because we're horribly under-recognised. It does amuse me that I know quite a few more females than males with AS - talk about bucking the trend! (But then, it's me, I never do things conventionally.)

Next month will be the first time I've attended an autism support network group thing (got the letter about it in the post the other day). I'll admit that I'm very nervous about it because I have no idea what to expect (never been in a big group of Aspies and Auties before; my friend runs an Asperger social group about an hour up the road from me but they meet once a month on Thursday evenings, and I have wheelchair badminton training that night so I can never make it).

Just a little tip: don't socialize with any of the males outside of the group, unless of course you want a romantic relationship with one of them. The problem is that these aspie males don't know the difference between friendship and romance. I'm still getting unsolicited contact from several males I met years ago, just because I was naive and I tried to be friendly. Once you're actually in the group setting, it becomes alot safer to interact with them.

Thanks for the heads-up. I'll make it very clear that I'm not available romantically. I'm as close to engaged as you can get without actually being engaged (we're waiting until my boyfriend can move down here so we're settled in the same place and have our own place just us and my two cats, but most people take us as engaged these days!)