Under pressure to wear make-up

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People keep saying that on my wedding day I will have to wear make-up because as a bride I won't "look right" if I don't. Then I tried to imagine a bride without make-up on and annoyingly it did feel weird, but I still feel confused as to why guys can look naturally beautiful but women need make-up and stuff to look beautiful.

It's as though society is saying that all women are born ugly or something. It's not fair. What is it about women being forced to wear make-up at special events?

You're right! It is your day and your decision! Dont let anyone try to take that from you! Be how you want to be... You should be feeling 100% comfortable. Not have some niggling thought in the back of your mind that someone had control of a situation that you were forced into... It is YOUR big day, not theirs... Enjoy every minute of it and dont be afraid to do whatever you wish to do! A natural woman is a beautiful woman... If that is what makes YOU happy, then go for it! .. Congratulations! and best wishes for an amazing future and life

In the old days, men wore makeup, too.

Unless you want to, just don't wear makeup on your wedding day.

Have you got a wedding date?

If you don't want to wear makeup on your wedding, don't wear it, and if anyone pressures you and asks why, tell them that's your personal choice and give them a look as if they've grown two noses and they're weird just for asking, lol.

There are lots of women who openly never wear makeup.

If you don't mind things like moisturiser on your face, it can be very enhancing of your natural beauty to just apply a nice, light layer of Olay or some other fairly good quality water-based moisturiser which absorbs well and isn't overly perfumed, gunky or greasy. It helps give your skin it's best natural glow and juicy look. Many women who don't like makeup find a nice, light moisturiser is all they need.

I get a lot of pressure to wear makeup from my family, especially my mom. I only will use face moisturizer, I don't even know if it counts as makeup. I would say don't wear any if it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you are uncomfortable, then you won't have as much fun. Congratulations on your wedding by the way!

I don't have an exact wedding date yet but we are definitely going to wed. We are engaged. But thanks for caring.

Anyway, I just get wound up about the pressure women have on our appearance. If I don't wear make-up as a bride, I will feel weird and unfeminine, even though I'm still annoyed as to why I should feel like this. Anyway, weddings can be an emotional day, and I will most probably get emotional, so I don't think it would help to have mascara run all over my face!

I feel annoyed about women having to shave our legs too, but I've been brainwashed by society to not dare to go out with unshaven legs showing. It would feel as humiliating as going out naked. But I still don't see why women should be made to feel like that though.

I agree that it sucks that we are pressured to feel this way. But, you've got a whole community here who feels the same way as you, and I bet a lot of us would also not wear make-up on our wedding day. It's your day, the only thing that matters is how you, and your fiance, feel. So if you don't want to wear make-up, don't. You will still be beautiful, and the day will still be special.

I love makeup. I actually want to go to beauty school, when I can afford it. But, it seems like a lot of autistic women are pressured into wearing makeup (being told that it's "normal", etc.) when they don't want to, and that makes me sad. Beauty should be a choice.

As a male, I rather prefer women without makeup, though I can understand it as a sort of age-defying cosmetic, as I hate looking old myself. Younger women who know how to apply it can make it look good, but still, most don't really need it, and there's much positive to be said for the natural, fresh-faced "girl-next-door look" (as it was known back in the 60s and 70s).

As for shaving body parts, I wish there was some sort of electronic cabinet, where a human could step in, with just their head sticking out, and have all the hair on their bodies automatically nuked right off. Shaving intimate areas manually is such a chore, and often tricky and painful.

Hair on the head is attractive, I'll never get used to the current trend of men shaving their heads, on 99.9% of them it looks awful. Hair anywhere else is just a nasty animal affectation. We should have evolved beyond that by now.

I don't wear makeup either and I also don't understand why being a woman seems to come with so many requirements. It all seems like such a waste of time and I can't understand how anyone can make themselves spend such ridiculous amounts of time in the bathroom every day fiddling with their hair and makeup.

I think you should do whatever you want to on your wedding and forget everyone else. It's your day and the only thing that is important is your happiness.