Do women really have more normal looking special interests?
Some of my early special interests were the Presidents (I’m in the U.S.) and the obituaries in the newspaper. Being raised Catholic, I also really got into the lives of the saints. Oh, and I would read the dictionary and the encyclopedia for fun.
I always did and still do have a ridiculous aptitude for retaining trivia (and sharing it with people, whether they’re interested or not).
I don’t know that I have any unusual special interests these days. All of mine are just standard-issue geeky stuff. I do sometimes fall down Wikipedia black holes, though.
I’ve also always had an affinity with animals, but that’s not really unusual in the circles I run in.
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My "normal" special interests:
- People (I am obsessed with at least one public figure at all times)
- Psychology
- Comedy (I am absolutely obsessed with things that make me laugh. Sometimes I'll remember a funny line from a show and will want to tattoo it on my body because I love it so much)
- Certain shows (I will watch my favourite shows over and over and over again)
- I record my life somewhat obsessively in multiple diaries; each in a different format, including video. (I think the interest itself is normal, but the degree to which I do it is probably abnormal)
- I collect unusual shirts with unique patterns and colour combinations (can't tell if this is normal or not)
My "abnormal" special interests:
- I collect stickers and washi tapes (I'm 28, so although this is a girly interest, I don't think it would be considered normal at my age)
- I collect different flavours of green tea
- In the past I was obsessed with Geisha culture and the era of women having bound feet in China (I don't know whether or not this would be considered abnormal... I was 16 at the time)
Can't think of any more at the moment, but I wouldn't be surprised if there's more.
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I can’t help but to think that if an NT woman who is an adult likes stuffed animals and stickers they view it as “oh that’s normal because lots of women like that” yet if a woman on the spectrum like stuff like that NTs view it as “she likes childlike stuff due to her disability”. This is based on the knowledge I have and my experiences.
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I see your point and I definitely think there is a truth in this sentiment, however, in my personal experience, if a woman in her mid-late 20s shares with her colleagues or acquaintances or even family members that she still likes stickers and stuffed animals, they would definitely think it's an odd quality, regardless of whether she has AD or not. I doubt they would call it "normal".
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My special interests:
Retaining random trivia (especially if science-related)
Science
Psychology
Video games (especially Mario Kart)
Autism/ASD
Pets (mainly cats and dogs since I have them)
...that's all that I could count.
Do any of them seem unusual for a girl my age?
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I see your point and I definitely think there is a truth in this sentiment, however, in my personal experience, if a woman in her mid-late 20s shares with her colleagues or acquaintances or even family members that she still likes stickers and stuffed animals, they would definitely think it's an odd quality, regardless of whether she has AD or not. I doubt they would call it "normal".
I don't think something being abnormal or less popular is the thing that makes it a 'special interest'
I think it's about perseveration and obsession on a very specific topic very much to the point it can hinder you in life
I think obsession and OCD can often overlap with ASD as with my brother
He is also a genius though, with a genius' IQ and understanding. It's not a bad trait necessarily but I'm guessing that's just something to be aware of for NTs so they make a point of saying it's a special interest not just an interest or hobby. Because I know I'm preoccupied with certain topics to the point it
Same with my two autistic son's
The elder is obsessed with farm animals and baby Einstein and even in that only a few specific parts again and again. Like 10 seconds repeated again and again. And nothing else.
and not in a light way but like ALWAYS he cannot go 5 minutes without a video or book about animals literally cannot you have to see him without that to see what happens
He used to be obsessed with food but not actually eating it (he rarely eats or drinks hence g tube) just pictures of food
The younger has always been obsessed with vehicles and again not in a normal way but to the point that nothing else will get his attention and it also blocks out other things
It's very encompassing and maybe that's why they say special interest, to distinguish it
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Childhood special interests:
Sesame Street and The Muppet Show (I was obsessed with the humans Jim Henson and Jon Stone)
Climbing anything, especially to seek privacy (attics)
Hiding in small places or making forts
Collecting coins and arranging them by year, value, size, etc.
Elton John, as a person and a musician
Adolescent / Adult interests:
19th Century British Literature (Romantic and Victorian)
Charlotte and Emily Brontë (bio, criticism) -- I read about 40 books a year on this topic
Ancestry and Genealogy
Knitting and needlework
Simon and Garfunkel, especially Art - with whom I'm in love
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Sesame Street and The Muppet Show (I was obsessed with the humans Jim Henson and Jon Stone)
Climbing anything, especially to seek privacy (attics)
Hiding in small places or making forts
Collecting coins and arranging them by year, value, size, etc.
Elton John, as a person and a musician
Adolescent / Adult interests:
19th Century British Literature (Romantic and Victorian)
Charlotte and Emily Brontë (bio, criticism) -- I read about 40 books a year on this topic
Ancestry and Genealogy
Knitting and needlework
Simon and Garfunkel, especially Art - with whom I'm in love
19th century literature has been a special interest of mine since adolescence, too. Jane Eyre is one of my favorite books.
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Childhood special interest:
1.Dogs
2.Fashion
3.Japan
4.Music
5.Sailor Moon
6. Dragonball Z
7. Androids
8. Stuffed animals
9. Barbie
10. My Little Pony
11. Pound Puppies
12. Pokemon
Adulthood:
1. Fashion
2. Makeup
3. Collecting stuffed animals
4. Music
5. Snakes
6. Coloring
7. Hair and makeup makeovers and tutorials
8.Girly video games
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Like mentioned in another thread, nature, animals, and art seem to be popular.
I have the above interests, but they are narrowed down further. Moss gardens, native species, specific Japanese character designers, for example. I don't ever find myself talking about these things with people, haha. I was not the horse girl, not the Warriors book series girl, I was the insect girl.
Hmm... when I was a kid I was obsessed with Barbies, fashion, paper dolls, Sailor Moon, Pokemon, boy bands, Spice Girls, and drawing. I'd say those were pretty "normal" I guess. Oddly enough as I've gotten older I was less and less interested in traditionally girly things and it's stayed true for me as an adult.
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My special interests include film, animals, art, Star Trek, cryptozoology, dinosaurs. Some of the stuff is more or less gender neutral. I guess other people have special interests like that. Some of the stuff I'm into, other people in my circle aren't really into. I remember when I was younger and I began to first love dinos, someone commented how it's unusual for a female to like. xD
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I'm with you on Star Trek and cryptozoology! I used to have this excellent dinosaur book in my early 20s that included descriptions about different dinosaurs and dinosaur-themed jokes! I loved it! I wish I knew what happened to it. I've moved so much since then.
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