Women who view sex more like men--how many of us?

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China is one of the most conservative places on planet Earth (at least when it comes to dating and marriage) so sex is kind of a hushed topic in China. And, yeah, the same narrative happens in China where guys are more physical about sex while women are more emotional about it.

But with the two different girlfriends I've had...I kind of feel like they sex more than I do(a lot of TV shows and movies lead me to believe that it's rare for girls to be in the mood but...no, that has not been the case )

Also, maybe girls either won't admit or really don't watch porn or...I don't know...things you could consider being porn? Erotic movies? (I guess that's more popular with women?)

To say that they aren't turned on by physical attributes would be really stretching it. If you look at all of the crazy fangirls and a lot of male pop stars and their music videos like Justin Beiber, Shawn Mendes, and so...many...different....male k-pop groups(there are also male pop groups in the west, but I'm more familiar with K-pop and considering that K-pop took a lot from western pop music, it still makes my point), I'd be hard pressed to say that the sexuality between men and women are completely different.

I know this wasn't the point of the video, but it shows how men and women show off certain features in the same way in K-pop music videos.



I mean, you could argue that their "artists" so that's what makes them attractive. So here are more artists that also have well defined, muscled features (but aren't sexualized) that should also turn women on and is in no way a genre of music that is mainly dominated by males.

Nice to get input from around the globe. Thanks for the insights!

I belong to an autistic women’s support group, and we’ve had a number of interesting conversations about sex. None of them have focused on what any of us desire in a partner, but practically all of us (again excluding some, but not all, of those with histories of sexual trauma) agree that we want a lot of sex - the phrase “I’ve never had a partner who could keep up with me” came up a lot.

Me! And I'm never afraid to admit it. I talk about it openly, I love sex, and I don't understand why other women don't like it as much. I also don't understand why they pretend to be coy about it. I would hear coworkers complain about their partners starting a shoulder massage and it turning into "something more," and I was like, what are you complaining about, that sounds hot! I am very visual. Emotions and romance have pretty much zero to do with my ability to be turned on and/or enjoy sex.

I can relate a lot to what you say, though I'm not a conservative christian but the rest of it definitely. I wonder if this is more common among autistic women, and if it has anything to do with the theory that autistic women have more "masculine" brains?

I like sex and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I also enjoy admiring attractive men.

I happen to believe that it's perfectly fine to "window shop" as long as you don't actually betray your partner. It is simply human nature to admire that which is desirable. You needn't act on it or even mention it. In fact, I feel that the element of fantasy adds spice to one's life, even or especially in a committed relationship. It can be taken too far if one mostly or only desires other partners, but a bit of discreet ogling and imagination is perfectly healthy.

I know a lot of girls who basically feel what you are describing and very open about their sexuality, myself included. I think a lot of the hangups about women and sex come from outdated views that it's all about that man's pleasure only. If both partners are enjoying themselves and each other, that's how sex should be in my opinion. I'm glad to have a partner who agrees with me in that sense.