Overprotective parents?

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Do you think there’s a connection between autism and overprotective parents?

While occasionally my mom did have to say no to a few things (one of my ex boyfriends staying at the house overnight and going to school with my cleavage showing mainly) she wasn’t overprotective.

I certainly wouldn’t call my parents over-protective, especially not my dad, but then again I’m usually the oddity that does not fit the general trend.

My parents are comparably lax and I still even would rather go behind their backs.

My issue isn't my parents' being overprotective.
But being too involved in times I don't want them to interfere, and uninvolved at times when I would've want them to.

They're decent, good enough... But not reliable.
Unreliable enough to distrust them more than not, and distrust them enough to drive them all away from any issues I have.


I'd take a bet, with parents generally just more misses than hits.
Even with all their best intents, sometimes their best will still give more misses than not.

To blame which or whose fault is would be pointless.
As far as I've known, parenting is already hard and tricky by itself while autism multiplies that.

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For sure.
I have a physical disability so my mom coddled me a bit. I got into my first romantic relationship (long distance) when I was 21. I fell for this guy really quickly and after a year and a half he ended horribly. I quickly entered my second (long distance) and that ended just as worse. I met both in person but they were strictly long distance due to neither of them taking it seriously like I was.

My parents basically micromanaged my life from there and took away my right to be online or go anywhere alone. I was 23 at the time but they were VERY overly protective of me because they said I was being too naive.

Decent parents don't wish to see their child in pain. If your behavior reminds them of their past mistakes or they see their own vulnerabilities in you, they overprotect. They do this because they are certain of a horrible outcome from what you're currently involved in. My parents were strange and screamed at me if I complained, so I kept my mouth shut and enrolled in the School of Hard Knocks. I think it's best when parents intervene - you'll lose less - like money, friends, jobs, self respect, your health, etc...

Yes very much so not let me do anything alone

My parents weren't overprotective at all. There was no special treatment and everyone had to do their share of work.

My dad is a bad dad and not over protective at all. Can't even protect me from his own temper.

My mum gets accused of being overprotective but usually by people who end up not having my best interests in mind.

I think it should depend on the individual to say if their parents are overprotective or not. Not social norms. If so, my mum is slightly overprotective.

But nowhere near as bad as some people have made her out to be before they ended up hurting me after I had a row with her about being overprotective.

And yeah, it doesn't cause autism. In my opinion, I genetically got that from my dad.

No, not at all. I was a very capable kid, and bullying made things tough. They tried to compensate, and they were very supportive of me. Then I got my diagnosis at 23 and things changed. I think they got frustrated with me. I kept trying to assimilate into society and kept having challenges.

I know they care, and I think they would have loved it if I got out there and worked, married, and had kids. I think they would have liked to have been grandparents, like their friends got to be.