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26 Jun 2009, 10:48 pm

You can always see a speech-language pathologist who specializes in voice if you have concerns. They are good at stufff.



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27 Jun 2009, 5:53 am

I don't think I would ever want to do that...personally..I just need to be more conscious of annoying people with my voice.



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10 Oct 2009, 1:40 am

I like the sing-song, high-when-excited way I speak. I can go from sounding 45 to sounding 6 in 5 seconds, and then back to 45 again (I am only 34). And the people who work with me are used to it. Sometimes when my voice sort of goes UP all of a sudden in a squeak, somebody will say "AAAH!" So I scare people sometimes, but they all laugh. And my husband loves it, so he says. :)



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10 Oct 2009, 2:05 am

Poopylungstuffing... I love your voice, and your singing, and your playing. It's unique and beautiful, and not for one minute did I think you were trolling. The comment which upset you was dreadfully childish and jealous, and I wouldn't pay any mind to it.



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10 Oct 2009, 11:40 am

It was just sorta funny...and I am hypersensitive to criticism... :wink:



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12 Oct 2009, 9:50 am

my voice is on the deep side and i talk at a low volume, so a lot of times i get asked to repeat myself. i talk slower than the average person (i can't hear it while i'm talking, but when i record myself and play it back, i can hear it and i hate it). several people have told me i talk slow or "delayed." people also have made roundabout references to my slow speech by asking if i smoke weed or if i'm from the deep south (alabama, the carolinas). people have also said that my voice is monotonous and that i sound depressed, particularly when i answer the phone, even when i'm in a good mood, even when making a conscious effort not to. this might be why i hate talking on the phone. :wall:

over the years i've worked persistently on learning improve my speech (which would mean clipping my words and not pronouncing every syllable, easier said than done for me), but my speech has not gotten that much faster. ultimately, this is just how i talk. if my slow, monotonous speech is not attributed to asperger's, then what the hell is wrong with me??? seriously. :?:


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12 Oct 2009, 3:21 pm

Boomshika wrote:
... people have also said that my voice is monotonous and that i sound depressed, particularly when i answer the phone, even when i'm in a good mood, even when making a conscious effort not to. this might be why i hate talking on the phone. ...


People very frequently attribute an inaccurate (and invariably negative) emotional state to me when talking on the phone, and to a lesser extent when talking face-to-face. Worse still, I usually am not even aware of my feelings, so I cannot correct them in real time.

My natural speech rate is on the slow side, but not so slow that it garners attention. I am careful to pronounce everything clearly and precisely. Hwever, speech mechanics are tricky for me and require constant attention, and as a result I trip on words and botch pronouns with regularity. Like a small child, I am usually voicing some type of random thought when alone, sort of practicing the vocalisation mechanics. Depending on time of day, degree of tiredness, or how engaged in the conversation I am, my intonation varies from slightly lowish and somewhat monotone to exaggeratedly high and variable. Volume regulation is also very difficult, and I tend to bounce between too soft and too loud. This might have to do with my audio hypersensitivity, which varies from morning to night and from day to day.

Thought organisation is also problematic in real time, so I frequently will pause conspicuously, mid-sentence, often for several seconds. Often I have to re-start the though a different way. Other times the thought thread just vanishes, almost as though it was plucked from my brain. Preparation (by way of talking to myself) beforehand helps, but even that does not eliminate the irregularity.



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25 Oct 2009, 5:06 am

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Wow, poopylungstuffing- I didn´t even recognize you in that video! Funny how a different voice and hairstyle can really change a person.

I guess I never had a monotone voice- at least, I don´t think I did- but my voice and inflections sound almost exactly like my Mom´s. In fact, people confuse us on the phone all the time. I wonder if I just sort of picked up her voice, because I heard it all the time?


I was pretty depressed in those days. It was like I was a completely different person. I was very rigid and hard on myself. I felt uncomfortable most of the time...even on stage.
My whole life revolved around the band. I kept these obsessive little journals where I would write about every little thing, and in the journals, I am very strict and hard on myself....so that was the "me" that corresponded with the low sounding voice.

Once I broke up with the guy in the red shirt, and moved out on my own, and eventually separated from the band (I was in the band for almost 4 years after we broke up)...I gradually started evolving into "myself" as I am today. I am not sure when I started talking in the higher voice all the time, but it was not long after I cut my hair and moved out on my own...(many years ago)


okay i'm confused here lol
your an aspie?
you actually were able to go onstage lots of times and sing??! !?

If so, i give you a lot of credit. I have a crap voice according to myself and if i sing i've been told i'm tone deaf lol



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25 Oct 2009, 5:08 am

poopylungstuffing wrote:
I don't think I would ever want to do that...personally..I just need to be more conscious of annoying people with my voice.


If people judge you by the sound of your voice, then they aren't worthy friends. Who cares what peoples' voices sound like? It's whats inside that counts. Cheesy, i know...



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25 Oct 2009, 5:44 am

Sometimes I am hyper-sensitive to the sounds of people's voices...There are some voices that really rattle my nerves...and the pitch and tone and various inflections can really grate on me....
There are other voices that I really like....

I get complimented a lot for my voice....But I have also occasionally been teased for it...and i find it unsettling when people mimic my voice...JUST when talking to me.... :roll:

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okay i'm confused here lol
your an aspie?
you actually were able to go onstage lots of times and sing??! !?

If so, i give you a lot of credit. I have a crap voice according to myself and if i sing i've been told i'm tone deaf lol


For all practical purposes, I am an aspie. I am "assessed" as having Asperger's...it is not the same as a formal diagnosis, but somewhat better than no diagnosis at all...An AS-specialist gave their opinion that I have Asperger's based on talking to me. A psychiatrist agreed that the assessment was most likely accurate...
I stim..I have obsessions...I walk on my toes...I don't make eye contact...I have a male finger-digit ratio...I have obsessions, meltdowns, sensory issues, various life-long social dysfunctions..it runs in the family on both sides.....yada yada yada...

Singing has been a major interest of mine for as long as i can remember...I learned to talk through singing...or I have been singing as long as I could talk....

I may not be the world's greatest singer...but I have been very very singing-oriented for all of my life...I was in choirs when I was young...and moved on to youth musical theater...and then I joined a band when I was 15...I was in that band for 10 years, and went on to other bands, but none as "professional" as my first band. I also have a solo ukulele act (Poopy Lungstuffing)
but I have a very difficult time performing alone on stage, as I get very muddled and confused. I do much better when I at least have a drummer to back me up...otherwise I get totally lost...



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26 Oct 2009, 3:37 am

^ I've sung and performed on stage before (when younger), and with severe social anxiety. :)



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26 Oct 2009, 4:33 am

My voice tends to vary wildly throughout the day - from deep and masculine to high pitched and childlike. These fluctuations bother me, and I wish it could stay in the middle at a neutral but feminine pitch.



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26 Oct 2009, 2:21 pm

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^ I've sung and performed on stage before (when younger), and with severe social anxiety. :)


Me too, though I did mostly dancing. Dancing was the easiest way for me to "speak". Also, acting was no problem for me because you always follow a text; you don´t need to use "instinct" to interact.


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26 Oct 2009, 2:57 pm

^ Did you ever experience performance anxiety in your career?

I would love to perform things again. Dance, acting, whatever :) , but am not healthy enough now. Watching dancing (and certain acting performances) can be just as amazing for me though.



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26 Oct 2009, 3:37 pm

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^ Did you ever experience performance anxiety in your career?


No, not really. I was sometimes nervous before a big role, but as soon as I stepped onstage, I felt as if I had stepped into another realm.

Of course, with the kind of performing I did I didn´t "see" the audience. I couldn´t tell if they were looking at me, the audience was dark. One huge problem I have in daily life is eye contact from many different people, or having groups of people look at me. This is why speech making, or talking to large groups of people who are visible is out of the question!


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26 Oct 2009, 5:35 pm

Morgana wrote:
outlier wrote:
^ Did you ever experience performance anxiety in your career?


No, not really. I was sometimes nervous before a big role, but as soon as I stepped onstage, I felt as if I had stepped into another realm.

Of course, with the kind of performing I did I didn´t "see" the audience. I couldn´t tell if they were looking at me, the audience was dark. One huge problem I have in daily life is eye contact from many different people, or having groups of people look at me. This is why speech making, or talking to large groups of people who are visible is out of the question!


On stage by myself I am very muddled and confused...I need somebody up there to back me up or else I am lost...I was heavily critiqued by my old band for not interacting very well with the audience and for always performing with my eyes closed.