Well, I often feel a disjunct between how I feel as a woman, and what others expect. For example, I feel very comfortable as a woman, but apparently I come across as rather "macho" or "butch" a lot of the time. I don't wear makeup (though I've tried, I just feel like my Dad in drag) I can't figure out WHAT to do with my hair. For a long time I cut it very short, but that just added to my butch image, and it gets somewhat annoying to keep having people thinking I'm a lesbian.
I wonder whether society's rather childish attitudes to what makes a woman female might have any impact on how women's sexuality develops? For example, if you're a big strong woman (I'm five ten, and when I moved house recently could schlep freezers, dryers etc with the best of them) people think you're "macho". No... I'm just a sturdy girl, to quote my Dad.
It would be interesting to see how aspie women view their sexuality.
Also, you're an aspie Mom... so am I, and my son is also aspie. But I'm also an aspie daughter, and at least one of my parents is NT. He's coming to terms with the way I am... but looking at opposite parent child relationships, and NT Aspie relationships between family and close friends is worth exploring.
I'm definitely bookmarking your blog, and reading it... mightn't be that active for a while, at least during the week, but I enjoyed what I read so far and will revisit it when I'm not at work. It is very well written, and that's always appealing.