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30 Sep 2022, 4:28 pm

I think this might be a cultural thing. I grew up in a busy place and did not have much time or privacy. I never lacked friends, actually they tend to stick to me and wouldn't let go. :D Funny that despite tons of friends and social experience, I'm still autistic. It just doesn't come naturally. :(


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01 Oct 2022, 9:03 am

As a younger child, I never had imaginary friends, although I was aware of the concept. Instead, I had lots of stuffed animals, with most of them being dogs, that acted as my "imaginary" friends. Each of them had a backstory of how they met me and my other stuffed animals. I'd spend hours playing with them, acting out different social scenarios.

At age 10, I moved across the country, and had to leave all my stuffed animals behind. (My parents offered to let me take just one of them with me, but I declined; I didn't want to separate it from its friends, like I was getting separated from my human friends.) After moving, I "made" an imaginary friend: a boy my age named Nicholas Iverson. He lived five blocks away from me, in a small house, by himself. He had no family, but had lots of pets. He didn't go to school, either, after bribing the local police into not arresting him for truancy. Funny how I always referred to him by his full legal name: not "Nick" or even "Nicholas", but always "Nicholas Iverson".

Come to think of it, I didn't fully believe in Nicholas Iverson's existence, but used him as a mental stim or a fantasy. In other words, his life was like I wished for mine to be. My therapist seemed to like hearing about him. And since I felt pressured to appease her, I kept up his existence longer than I would have otherwise. A year or so later, I told her that Nicholas Iverson moved away to Israel (I'm Jewish), and stopped talking about him.



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01 Oct 2022, 9:59 am

As a child I had a couple human imaginary friends that were modeled after fictional characters that I liked. Most of them were animals though, and I used stuffed animals to represent them.



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01 Oct 2022, 10:11 am

I have imaginary friends I play pretend around.
I have imaginary enemies I'd blame my mischief onto.
I have imaginary worlds I observe and interacted with.


I also play pretend plenty around other children.
It was a fun.


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01 Oct 2022, 3:54 pm

I had an imaginary friend. I became attached according to Mom so one day she knocked on the door and said it was my imaginary friend, to scare me. That was end of that. But I talked to my hand...actually we're still in touch lol. One was friendly and compassionate. The other was ornery and brash. The fights were daily. :lol:



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01 Oct 2022, 3:57 pm

I've posted this, bit I have a imaginary brother/father figure since a sufficient one has never existed. One of the best friends I've ever had.



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05 Oct 2022, 2:05 am

BreathlessJade wrote:
I've posted this, bit I have a imaginary brother/father figure since a sufficient one has never existed. One of the best friends I've ever had.

Interesting. I think Nicholas Iverson was a projection of a same-age sibling I wished I had but didn't. He was also a fantasy: being free of all adult authority figures, and having no live-in family other than pets.

It's funny how I now live alone, although pets aren't an option due to my work and social schedules. (I have close friends with pets, though.) My Nicholas Iverson friendship came close to true 30 years later.