Do Aspies worry?

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Someone mention the "what if" syndrome thinking of tons of ways a situation can go. After 5 long years of OMG no College depression due to College issues you think I'd be head over hills OMG OMG about going back but I feel bitter sweet. Mainly due to I'm scared and worried for the future. Ya a second chance and yes I've found out about AS etc. but still the world isn't perfect (perfect world is me being able to socialize have a group of friends and go places etc. alot as one of my friends do.) I know if I'm myself I WILL upset people yet if I crawl into a shell and you/I hit it off relationship wise/ friendship or a guy and have it be "more" then you aren't seeing the true me! I'm in a shell and scared etc. I don't want to meet my potential boyfriend/friends like this I want to come out of my shell and be my trueself but don't know how. I'm excited YES but now comes the worry of the course work and the daunting task of trying to make friends/maybe boyfriend.

I think everybody worries if it's about something that's important to them. Maybe those with AS hyper worry.

I worry to the point where I honestly think I've already taken years off my life because of it. It's cyclical with me, though.

I used to worry almost continuously until few years ago, when I merely decided that nothing was that important that I needed to expend negative emotional energy. I only worry now if I need to do something that's both new and involves other people or (same category and) I'm just not accostumed to it yet..

I keep getting told that I worry way too much, and I admit that's true.

I'm probably the biggest worry wort there is. I worry about everything and I mean everything.

That was me that was talking about the "what if" syndrome. I read a book by a young guy from the UK who has AS. He worded the way I obsess and worry about things (general anxiety) perfectly and called it the "what if???". He said that most of us on the Autism spectrum spend more energy having anxiety about things that will probably never happen. Like he related a story something like this.....
You have a dentist appointment (which would be enough to make me stress on its own LOL) and after wards you are supposed to meet a friend so you start worrying. What if the dentist appointment runs late? What if you miss your bus? What if you cant get to a phone? What if your friend gets mad at you thinking that you have blown him or her off? ......and on and on like that.
Thats basically me and it makes me crazy. My husband and even my oldest daughter is pretty good at talking me down sometimes and I am learning to try to convince myself that things will be ok....but I think its alright to worry as long as it doesnt become painful for you so you DO want to go hide under a rock. My husband was telling me that they did a study that showed that the world needs people to worry and actually people who worry a bit more have less accidents, are more attentive to their children and their things.
The book is actually very helpful in finding ways to help yourself it is called Survival Strategies For People On The Autism Spectrum by Marc Fleisher.

I worry, all the time. I worry about my money.

I'm told I worry waaay more than the average person, but I don't recognize that it's worry. I just see it as thinking about something, pondering it.

Hey Liloleme I found the book you mention (US money it's about $20 which is what most AS info. books I've found run.) I don't have the cash right now for it but will look into buying it and other AS books in the near future (I'd also like the try that guide thing by Tony Attwood and Asperger's and Girls (Since I'm a female and all) I hate most run $20 a pop I'd like $10-$15 would be WAY more reasonable and in my price range (I know the library= free BUT I couldn't find any AS books at any local libraries) maybe in the near future I can buy some AS books.

I am an Aspie and I worry about some things under certain circumstances.

ruveyn

Try Amazon....they have links to used books that are pretty cheap. Ive bough some used books through Amazon and Ive never had a problem.

I let worry of what to become, really get the best of me. Its something i'm going to change because nothing is that important to the point you can't sleep,eat and function to your fullest.

I have spent sleepless nights terrified that I might miss my novela the next day whenever the plot is getting interesting, or it's close to the end.