Inappropriate vs. Quiet

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oh, ive had similar things happen to me. no one ever confronted it, though. i thought it was rude what the wife said to you!
i usually remember to thank people, but it's auto-response. just like if someone says good morning to me at 5pm, i will say good morning back (happened to me, before!)

Once as a teenager I picked up a baby sitting job for my sister. She told me later the parents (both psychologists) told her I was hostile.

ouch!

I know, I was just shy for heavens sake.

i understand. . i dont get how people can even mix up shyness with hostility.
i'd only babysat once, and i was helping my friend do it. i suppose i was ok, i didnt really socialize though, just listened to the kids, played a few games, and made food. luckily my friend took care of the baby and the niceties....i cant handle those! in fact if i recall correctly, i think i tried to play with it, and it started crying!
the parents didnt really acknowledge my being there >.>

Yeah I was completely flabbergasted (hurt too).

yeah. oh well, i'm sure you dont babysit, anymore. XD

That was only one of 3 times. Another time the kid started puking. The parents were at a ball game and I called and tried to get them paged. They wouldn't do it.

they wouldnt do what? answer? poor kid, he was ok, wasnt he?

yeah she just had a bug-they didn't ask me back I think because they were embarrassed-I didn't like baby sitting anyway.

oh, i dont know why they would be embarassed. oh well.

Definitely inappropriate...it's hard to give an example, because the actions or words don't seem inappropriate at the time! I never felt this growing up; I suppose my family and friends were just used to how I am. Since graduating from college, though, it's been very difficult for me to make friends. At two of the schools where I've worked, I had a very hard time socializing or even getting along with the other faculty. (I have no trouble bonding with my students, especially my special needs students.)

I am intentionally becoming more quiet, though, as I hate feeling that I have done something wrong, as I never know what it was or how to fix it! I find that I tend to dominate conversations, even without realizing it, so I now make an effort to listen rather than bringing in my own (often long-winded) opinion -- for example, listening to my friend talk about his relationship with his little niece, instead of talking about how wonderful my little nephews are. I really do find what other people say interesting, but I worry that I give them the impression that I don't.

In social situations, I have taught myself to sit quietly with a smile on my face, laugh when everyone else is laughing, and only speak when spoken to (unless I am greeting people). I will offer a compliment if I'm not interrupting someone else's conversation, say on a haircut or particularly sharp outfit. The only person who seems to worry if I'm quiet is my husband, who is used to my habit of talking a lot (and without knowing it, loudly). He thinks I'm not having fun! My goal is to appear thoughtful and not aloof -- that's why all the smiling and laughing -- because I am sick and tired of doing inappropriate things! Since I have so much trouble telling what's inappropriate in a social situation, being quiet seems like a better option! I'd rather be considered "that quiet girl" than "that weirdo" or "that rude girl."

I don't know if it's because I am slightly Tourettes/AD/HD or just the AS but I do say things before I think. I often say naughty things like sex comments! The other thing I often do is touch people (I think that's TS because I can't control it), jump around or fidget when I speak or just swear a lot in general. I'm a ******* foul mouthed *****... (add your own words. It's fun)

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Mos times, I just keep my small yap shut and don't talk unless it's necessary.