Were you badly bullied by non-family-members?

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My daughters getting bullied, I have been explaining to her how people who bully others are defective. She's a smart kid, and I've laid it out for her how they work and where they end up in life (miserable failures, even if they seem outwardly successful). I've taught her they are to be pitied.
Also to just stay away - recognise them for the danger they are esp ones that are sometime friendly; be polite but indifferent towards them and never let them get close to you
Been talking it through with her every day with regard to this little b*tch in her class, and it's working.

Homeschool her if you can becuase bullying can lead to PTSD, OCD, multiple personalities and too many emotional scars for one person in adult life. Or at least tell the school to get it's act together or speak to the b***h yoursef and scar her for life. I used to tease this total mama's boy named "Bruce" by calling him "Brucie" and his mom met me when I was getting off the schoolbus and told me to either call him "Bruice" or "BJ" if I didn't knock it off she would hurt me...I can't remember her exact words but I think she did threaten me with bodly harm or told me I would regret it. I stayed away from Bruice/BJ naturaly unless he bullied me first.

I don't think I told me mom becuase I didn't think she would believe me, wouldn't do anything about it or tell me it was my fault. But still, calling him a cute nickname because it was my way of showing I wanted to be friends was rather harmless. Kids would tell me things like I had AIDS or that I was weird or even physicaly hurt me for no reason. I was agressive and would purposely hurt the other kids but it was alway in revenge or retaltation or a way to warn others not to mess with me

It's so painful to remember my mom not doing anything about it or at least not going full mama bear on the teacher when they didn't do anything about the bullies and it's even painful that she thinks it's my fault I was abused. Unless you want to your daughter to distance herself from you in the future or basicaly disown you, tell the schoolboard they will ed the bullying or will be speaking to a judge.

That is a common problem and it is a part of what makes bullying so hard to deal with. It's like getting trapped in a situation where you are bullied, because the people who would be able to help either don't take the bullying problem seriously enough or don't believe it's happening.

When I was in elementary school and was being bullied a lot, my mother knew about it and believed it and tried to get the school to do something about it, but they refused to do anything about it. They couldn't be bothered to get involved and try to stop the bullying. It was implied that this was something that me and my mother just had to either suck up or deal with on our own. The bullies faced no consequences at all and their parents were not even told what was happening. My mother eventually gave up trying and didn't want to know about it anymore, so I was on my own dealing with the bullies.

In high school some teachers were bullies. When I complained to the vice principal about one of the teachers bullying me, she refused to believe it and said I had to have misunderstood something, because the thought of a teacher bullying a student was just unimaginable.

I haven't bothered reporting the bullying in my workplace, because I know that nothing would be done about it and I would just be considered weak or wacko for complaining about it and told it's all in my head or that I should just deal with it on my own as an adult.

As a kid/teenager I was often punished for telling the truth and for doing nothing wrong at all, while the liars who had done something wrong and lied their way out of it always got away with everything. If someone did something bad to me I often ended up being punished for it while they got away with it. That was really frustrating and didn't seem fair or sensible at all. I eventually learned that to most people lies generally sound more believable than the truth, especially since I've always managed to get myself in unusual situations that are hard for people to believe. So I learned that by lying sometimes I could avoid being punished for telling the truth when I had done nothing wrong. Nobody would get punished for what they did to me, but at least I would not be punished either for telling unbelievable truths.

Yes I have all my life...

Oh oops, I forgot, these forums are for humans.

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It was hard to answer, because usually I was not teased or treated bad when I was little. I answered adolescence because it was totally worst then. Then I have been teased and excluded as an adult. Been quite severely bullied online as an adult as well. Still, it wasn't all my life, since I actually had not seen much of bullying of anyone before I was 10.

I was bullied through school by being made fun of and being completely ignored. Add on sexual, verbal abuse, neglect, and abandonment in my home life, that basically tells you what a great life I had.

I had some trouble with my mates in every school year and at university.


Last year they waited until school year ended to start trolling me at fb instead of saying things during the year so Im improving.

I was not bullied when I was in elementary school - I lived in a small town and everyone was actually my friend. I was known as the nicest girl in class - teachers would even say, "Why can't the rest of you all be quiet and listen like Ashley?"

BUT, then my family made the decision to move out of our small town and move states away into a city. Thats when things went down hill. I got bullied a lot in middle school. I had a group of girls sneak up behind me in art class and rub red paint on my face. I got verbally picked on, called names like "Pinnocio". In 8th grade, I went through a lot of sexual harassment from boys - things like boys trying to force me to go into the bathroom with them and getting my chest/butt grabbed. I've been threatened about getting jumped when I least expect it.

Thankfully, most of it all went away in high school because I grew into my looks and then boys started asking me out instead of insulting me. I still got called names by girls, but only behind my back (someone else would feel the need to tell me so and so said whatever). I've still been bullied every once in a while, but only by guys who are horny pervs. When I worked at one place, there was a guy - much bigger than me - who felt the need to corner me all the time and try kissing me and smacking my butt - even though I was already married and he knew this. I eventually got sick of it and dug my nails into his face one day and he seemed to back off after that and eventually either quit or got fired, I dont know. My brother was one of the bosses there (not the big boss though) and tried to talk me into filing a sexual harassment lawsuit, but I just couldn't - last time I went to get help for sexual harassment (in middle school, at the schools guidance counselor), I was forced to write a whole essay thing and read it outloud face to face with the boy infront of the counselor and then we were free to go on our merry little way. It didnt solve anything, it just p*ssed the boy off and when we were back in the same class together, he raised his 3 ring binder up in the air to hit me with and threatened to beat me.

I read so much bullying I feel like smacking those idiots up. During my school days which was over 40 years ago, there were very few incidents of bullying. The boys who were bullies dared not do anything to me, because I was very tall, and was able to act to Bruce Lee! Somehow, I was able to imitate his stances and fist power!
But the main thing that aspies need, I wasn't able to improve - having or making friends. This is the toughest thing. If only someone had given me techniques of friendship, just like the techniques of kung fu, it might help.

I just want to comment to say that this is overly and strangely defined. Adolescence varies from one individual to the next, and is generally accepted as being the teenage years. Some children reach adolescence at fifteen years old (a late bloomer), some at ten (an early bloomer). I entered adolescence around 11 and was fully an adolescent by the time I was 12. And I'm not confusing "adolescence" with "pubescence."

As for the poll, I am an adult who has been bullied throughout my life, but not badly, so I chose "other."

I'm almost 16 and was only bullied in childhood and not that much.

There is this one girl who kind of bullies me, but I'm sure if it counts because she treats everyone like that.

Bullied throughout school until the 10th grade. Bullied at a couple of jobs as an adult, but not systematically. Had attempts to bully me online at various points, but was able to cope.

I was only bullied in 7th and 8th grade. It was pretty severe and I was one of the top targets, if not the top. I might yield top honors to the gay kid but he also had strong social skills to compensate.

yes i had a bully in grade school, and then for a few years i was under the radar, and then in high school and college, i was bullied by my so called "friends" and school band members. i remember coming home screaming mad and yelling at the top of my lungs of the treatment i recieved before class, at lunch, and after school. i remember rubber bands being flung at me and getting hit for no reason, everything i said taken out of context and turned against me to put me down, roommates stealing personal things (like my poetry books) and showing them to complete strangers and writing lyrics all over the place, pictures of my gf and me being hung up in the hallways with embarrassing insults, being lied and tricked into hanging out and then once i leave the room for a moment they lock the door and dont let me back in and ignore me. and laugh as i get upset for their sudden change of attitude and actions. being tackled in my chair as my high as f**k roomie beats me and threatens to kick my ass. and i never got it right when i tried to defend myself with words or with threats, so its no f*****g wonder i dont get along with guys and i have a most reserved animosity to the average man on the street so i stay by myself and no one gives me s**t.

will i ever be able to trust an adult man? as of right now, no. they are still immature, ignorant, piece of s**t douchebags. i have just given up in having male friends. it seems the whole sh***y friendship routine of my earlier years will never go away til perhaps im old and senile or whatever the f**k it takes to have male friends.

I was bullied in childhood. Not badly, though.
I was very sensitive and would start crying over the most pointless things - so obviously I was made fun of by others.
If they thought I might be about to cry, they'd start yelling "Cry! Cry! Cry! Cry!", which was quite effective
And then there was this friend I had, but I still have no idea whether she was deliberately mean or if she truly thought she was being pleasant. Either way, she traumatized me, which is ridiculous.

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Almost all of you are adults now, don't have to worry about the past bullies anymore. You all only have to think of your future goals from now on. In fact, most of such bullies end up as failures, drunkards and losers.