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I've been bullied by both males and females...but males have been far more guilty in this respect. Me and a friend of mine once got jumped by a van-load of jocks and their girlfriends were in the van too. This was not an AS/NLD-related incident btw. We were just walking on the sidewalk and they were pulling out of a parking lot. They almost hit us and we yelled a few choice words at them. They jumped out of the van and proceeded to assault us. The girls tried to stop them and then they came up to me while I was on the ground. They were crying and told me how sorry there were and asked if I was OK. I was fine overall....I just had bloody nose. My friend ran away before they had a chance to beat him up too badly.


Still....girls have bullied me plenty of times in the past. In fact....one of the earliest bullying episodes I remember was when several boys were holding my arms behind my back while a girl was punching me. This was in Kindergarten or first grade I think. Most of the bullying that girls have engaged in since has been verbal. Human being are pretty sadisitic overall, but I think males are far worse in this respect.

Apparently i've set off the "gaydar" in a few women....I am 100% heterosexual, but I guess I have some feminine characteristics. Girls seem to behave far worse towards other girls who they believe are beneath them in some way. Or girls that they're jealous of for some reason or another (usually having something to do with the other girl's appearance or the guy she's dating). Overall....most girls have either ignored me or treated me in a patronizing manner as if I was some little child. Alot of girls seem attracted to me as well and that has everything to do with my physical appearance. Said attraction often, but not always, fades once they witness my non-verbal communication and/or once I open my mouth.

I stopped hanging out with a group of friends because these 2 girls kept messing with my food at lunch...Some how it was funny to them for me to get angry about them messing with my food...

I'm not sure why anyone would bother a bike-rider! I think it's great when people choose to bike or walk instead of driving everywhere. Who knows what was going on with the woman who honked and mocked the OP? Don't let her problem become yours!

I think women who bully do so because they know they can get away with it. As someone said above, it's hard to complain about bullying when you can't prove it. You'll get blamed for being a whiner or catty if you try to report another woman for being mean! As a student teacher, I was bullied and sabotaged by my host teacher. When I talked to my advisor at my grad school, she listened to my concerns but refused to consider moving me to a different placement because I couldn't prove anything. I knew she was badmouthing me behind my back, and the way she kept changing her requirements of me without telling me made me look bad. Since I had no concrete proof, there was nothing I could do to stop her. It's similar with physical abuse...I remember a few years back there was a perfume commercial in which a woman slapped a man across the face. I was shocked, and said to my father, "If they made a commercial where a man slapped a woman, it would never air!" Yet it was somehow acceptable -- even humorous -- for a woman to slap a man! IMHO, if a woman slaps a man, he has the right to slap her right back! Men don't deserve bullying anymore than women; no one deserves bullying!

I don't know if any conclusions can be drawn about female vs. male bullies. In general, female bullying can be cattier and more underhanded and male bullying more overt and physical, but whether that holds true in practice I don't really know. I know I've been bullied in adulthood by a group of women friends, and their tactic was to cut me out of their social circle and make me a pariah. I suppose that was less painful than being physically beaten would have been, but it certainly hurt for many years, long after physical scars would have healed. But I've had the same thing happen to me in another group. and the ringleader was a man, and he was even more vicious in his underhanded character assassination.

The kind of bullying the OP describes, with strangers yelling out of cars or making loud comments in public has only happened to me at the hands of women. Somehow I would have trouble imagining young men feeling so disrespectful they would yell insults at a woman in her 40s, whereas with young women I am still fair game.

i've learned to treat them all as uncurbed barking dogs- to be wary of and to steer as clear of them as possible, and to not make eye contact.

I don't bully, period.

Women....I'll stop there lest I offend every feminist here, again.

Yep.

I guess I'm fortunate, I usually don't offend (most of) them
I just disapoint (most of) them.