How do NT's do that?
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Verdandi wrote:
Bloodheart wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Why didn't you want to say what you were doing at college? It seems like a harmless question to me.
Not sure, he's a proper student (one of those full time university students), where as I'm just doing one part-time course, and he might have follow-up questions or think I'm old (don't ask me why that bothers me)...I really don't know, I just seem to get very secretive and defensive.
I find myself often saying things I can't really explain later. It seems to be somewhat common.
Yeah? This is one of a few questions I have saved up to post here, if others are like this - saying and doing things you can't really explain. I always get secretive about these things, makes BF paranoid as hell and possibly adds to my being a little odd to others.
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The thing is, you give an emotional response and your brain will kick in when the emotional situation is over, and then: you kick yourself in the butt (,cause you're THAT elastic). I wonder if it happens to NTs too, they seem to be feeling mostly nothing most of the time...They're just more relaxed maybe.
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Bloodheart wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
Bloodheart wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Why didn't you want to say what you were doing at college? It seems like a harmless question to me.
Not sure, he's a proper student (one of those full time university students), where as I'm just doing one part-time course, and he might have follow-up questions or think I'm old (don't ask me why that bothers me)...I really don't know, I just seem to get very secretive and defensive.
I find myself often saying things I can't really explain later. It seems to be somewhat common.
Yeah? This is one of a few questions I have saved up to post here, if others are like this - saying and doing things you can't really explain. I always get secretive about these things, makes BF paranoid as hell and possibly adds to my being a little odd to others.
If a conversation catches me off guard, my brain might start throwing out what seems to be contextually appropriate phrases if I don't stop talking entirely ... and I'll probably say or agree to something that I would not otherwise stand beside. If I zone out entirely and stop processing sensory information, I sometimes continue to respond to people despite having no idea what they or I are saying. Sometimes I start free associating during a conversation despite trying to stay on a particular topic, and end up saying a lot of random things that I probably agree with but didn't actually want to say. Some of this is almost certainly ADHD, but I think AS almost certainly affects what I am able to say, if that makes sense.
This doesn't count echolalia when alone that makes no sense, just random phrases memorized some elsewhere that come out when I try to think out loud.
Bloodheart wrote:
Yet, I still don't get how NT's seem to get this connection going, this ability to make friends so easily, to hang-out with each other. Any insight?
Absolutely no idea whatever. It's like watching some sort of magic telepathy in action and suddenly, everyone else is skipping off into the sunset, happily paired off and chattering away, and I'm left standing there going "WTF was that?".
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Bloodheart wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
Bloodheart wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Why didn't you want to say what you were doing at college? It seems like a harmless question to me.
Not sure, he's a proper student (one of those full time university students), where as I'm just doing one part-time course, and he might have follow-up questions or think I'm old (don't ask me why that bothers me)...I really don't know, I just seem to get very secretive and defensive.
I find myself often saying things I can't really explain later. It seems to be somewhat common.
Yeah? This is one of a few questions I have saved up to post here, if others are like this - saying and doing things you can't really explain. I always get secretive about these things, makes BF paranoid as hell and possibly adds to my being a little odd to others.
I get very secretive and defensive too. To the point where I'll rarely, if ever, talk to someone about my "special interests". I guess I just assume that they don't need to know or wouldn't be interested in hearing what I've really been up to these past few days. It's irrational, but I'll go out of my way to avoid talking about it sometimes. I don't lie about it, per say, just skirt around the issue. I'm trying to get better at simply being more open to people, but so far, it's been rather unsuccessful. I think people just assume I'm a boring person because I never talk about anything with a burning passion. It's not that I don't have interests, it's just that I can't bring myself to talk about them. Maybe that's another reason I have trouble in conversations... people don't bring up the right topics. And I'm awful at looking interested during small talk.
And, yeah... I sometimes blurt out random things that surprise me. Or say things I really don't mean. They just come out of my mouth and I have no idea what possessed me to say something like that. It may be ADHD related. I jumble phrases together and I also have a habit of getting myself "stuck up a tree" when I lose track of what I'm saying mid-sentence. So I'm half-way through and then I have no idea how I wanted to end the sentence. So I will trail off or attempt to finish it, often to really bad ends (ie it doesn't make any sense).
OH well. I shall simply call it "foot in mouth" syndrome. xD
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