What Exactly Is "The Big Picture"?

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ToughDiamond, that's interesting that when you notice a person is angry, it seems timeless and absolute to you. Come to think of it I do the same thing. If I'm at the drugstore and go up to the cashier to pay I get so involved in registering every single tiny facial muscle movement and voice tonality rise or lowering and the specific words they use like they are all that exist in the world at that moment and everything depends on me responding in a pleasing way to them. (Maybe cause people on the autistic spectrum are naturally more fearful of other people and see them (on an animalistic level) as potential predators who could do them in if they don't react appropriately?)

On that note, I have noticed that I am extremely good at "reading" thew few people who I've spent a lot of time around (family members mostly), so yeah, I'm sure it's a matter of time spent around people in addition to NTs reserving analysis until they know a person well enough.

PS - and of course since I'm so hyperfocused on every aspect of the cashier's demeanor I completely mess up my end of the simplest transaction (almost forget to pay for my stuff, forget how to use a credit card, not be able to form a coherent sentence, etc.)

I assume big picture means seeing all the details. Missing the overall picture would be you are too focused on something in a situation you ignore all the other details. I notice everyone does that so I try and see the overall picture by looking at all the details. Like when I read a post, I try and look at everything that has been written than focusing on a single sentence I am responding too because when you focus on a sentence, you totally take the post out of context because you said something irrelevant. That is another reason why I am so slow in making a post. I keep reading a post over and over and over and then I sometimes cancel out on my post seeing that is not what the person is saying.

I would LOVE to do that, but I have too many responsibilities.

Really it seems like the part of social interaction I like the most is: Jokes, loud obnoxiousness in general, partying, video games, sports(if I was good), watching a good movie, dancing(if only), singing(again, if I was only good). I really don't care much for things like talking about the weather but I'll put up with it as I have to. I do appreciate the really fun aspects of socializing but could do without the more mundane aspects.

The things I do like about socializing are actually more fun than anything I do alone in the rare moment I'm able to do well at them. But a lot of it seems to be things most people turn away from after college. This scares me. I'm going to be ready to fully enjoy these things when everyone is leaving them behind. How am I going to find people to do these things with? Will I need to pay people? I've already decided I need to become rich just in case I will have to do this.

I wish they had social immersion therapy covered by insurance so I could just catch up by immersing myself in social situations while not having to worry about working on anything else.