feelings about church people

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I don't trust Joel Osteen because he always smiles. But it's not a natural smile. It's like he's just gotten the best heroin rush ever. Or else he's creaming his shorts continuously.

I still believe in fairies.

As for church, I was always very nervous in church. I get the feeling that all the well-wishing is phoney- how can they wish we me well if they don't know me? Also, I hate the hugging. All seems very intrusive to me, and I feel this strong urge to get the heck outta there as quickly as possible.

I am sure most of them are probably nice, though. Not serial killers or anything.

there has only been a few times i was totaly scared by just seeing someone for the first time and they've all been over-board church folks(mostly family)

It's like coming to this board maybe you read a thread about someone who is struggling ..do you feel bad for them? want to help; to reach out? I think the well-wishing is part of empathy altho they might not know exactely your situation or even know you personally...they know your hurting and they have hurt at one time or another too. Nobody wants another person to suffer do they?

I can tell you that a fundamental belief in church is that you treat others the way you want to be treated and this might account for a good majority of the well wishing? Your also suppose to put others before yourself... does not mean they all have learned the good lessons or they all are approaching it the same.

I can't speak for all church people but i personally wish everyone well I worry for people i've never met and wish i could help or get involved in situations altho I don't really know someone. I've let strangers sleep on my sofa (before having kids), I've given my own food to people who needed it, have given money to others altho I sometimes didn't have it to give, I've taken all 13 of the neighbor kids to the beach (because i wanted them to have someone pay attention) even tho they all drive me insane lol.. I've sat up listening to a friend online who i've never met in person talk endlessly because they felt suicidal and i didn't want to logoff untill i knew they were ok. When there is injustice in the world my heart crys for the people hurt by it. When there are disasters I am pulled to want to help.

I do know what you mean about phoney tho because when I went through my divorce I would say about half of the people at church who previously made me feel comfortable or pretended to be my friend suddenly would not talk to me. I just dont think we can link them all into one catagory is all because some do really sincerly care how you feel and that you need some support or someone to listen or a kind word; even a friend....

It may also have nothing to do with church it might simply be that some people are selfless and are better at empathy or sympathy. Could be that some people just simply care more than others?

The hugging is obnoxious lol I would think personally a smile is enough... my issue with it has more to do with germs and things... some people i guess need those extra hugs:)

Church people scare me. They seem like their minds are possessed.

some scare me too lol not all are a like i think that was really the main point i was making hahahaha

possessed.. you know i think it's possible that some actually are

The purpose of going to church relates to our relationship with Jesus Christ. The church is the one organization full of sinners and hypocrites that is honest enough to admit it is full of sinners and hypocrites.

God is the God of small things, like the weather. When Christians pray about the small things, like thanking God for the weather, it's the same as when people engage in small talk. Bringing up topics like one's depression or autism spectrum disorder or cancer in a prayer group can be just as much a social challenge to others as bringing such topics into a casual conversation at a party.

For an aspie having Christian fellowship can be very tough--- I personally don't have it right now and haven't even been to Mass in a while. I've gradually come to realize in a lot of cases it's not them, it's me--- I'm interpreting things as rejection that weren't meant that way, am taking things others say out of context, am not noticing others' attempts to show concern.

If the internet is comfortable, maybe look for a good Christian forum? I was on a Christian forum once and mentioned I had Aspergers and there were others who had it or who were parents of aspies, and they were pretty cool about it.

But the main thing is, pray about it.

+++Whenever I see the KKK-like anti-Christian hate group there is on this board bashing Christianity, I just wish they would all go out and read Thomas Aquinas until they understood enough some of it--- so at least they could make some intelligent hate remarks.+++