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The option that best describes me is...
I have never had problems using pronouns. 36%  36%  [ 20 ]
I used to have problems using pronouns correctly but not anymore. 11%  11%  [ 6 ]
I have problems using pronouns correctly only when shut down or upset. 7%  7%  [ 4 ]
I have problems using pronouns under minimal stress or fairly often, but wouldn't consider it a huge problem (a mistake or two a day, more under stress) 21%  21%  [ 12 ]
I have obvious problems using pronouns daily, regardless of any outside stressor. 9%  9%  [ 5 ]
When I think to myself, I may use pronouns differently, especially in relation to myself, but haven't any problems with them in speech or text. 11%  11%  [ 6 ]
Something else describes me best / I want to know the answers. 5%  5%  [ 3 ]
Total votes : 56

drchcat85
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08 Jan 2015, 5:33 am

I did reverse pronouns until age 5 or 5 1/2. I used ”you” instead ”I”. Now, in current speech, I use correct pronouns, and in my thoughts and when I am talking to myself, I use pronouns in 1st and 2nd Person and never 3rd Person.



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08 Jan 2015, 7:45 am

Me don't have a lot of problems with this, but occasionally, we do!


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08 Jan 2015, 7:59 am

Since I started speaking, I've never had problems using the correct pronouns.

I might use a term which renders the object/subject of a sentence animal/object, rather than human.



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08 Jan 2015, 8:38 am

I'm usually good at pronouns, but for some reason my internal monologue is in third-person past-tense. No idea why.



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08 Jan 2015, 3:31 pm

I'm not sure I get them wrong, I just have my own rules and am not comfortable with some of them (in the same way I'm not comfortable with names).

If I am talking about someone to someone else who doesn't know them I tend to use 'they' even though I know the gender so could use 'he' or 'she' I always thought this was normal, but when I started seeing a counsellor they found it very confusing and thought I was talking about plural people.

I use 'you' when I mean 'me', it will tend to be if I am talking about something that could apply to other people e.g "at my work it is really difficult for you to get promoted" which I think is valid but the trouble is if I carry on talking and move to things that are less general and specific to me I will stick with it "its really difficult for you to manage so many different projects" which can confuse people as it sounds like I am criticising them.

I really think it is not about not knowing the right words but being uncomfortable talking about myself, or people i'm not too familiar with, so I use words that distance them



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25 Jul 2015, 11:09 pm

SammichEater wrote:
When I was a little kid I referred to myself as "you" instead of "I" or "me".


I'm seeing that in my daughter. SammichEater, do you recall how you figured out the differences and which one to use? Repetitive correction, illustration and words? Or did it just change over time as you heard more people speaking?



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26 Jul 2015, 3:16 am

I rarely say I, I usually say we or (my name). So if I'm saying I am/I want etc I say (my name) is or (my name) wants for example. I tend to type like this too so I go back and change the bits that should be I or whatever. It also usually happens when speaking about other people too.



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26 Jul 2015, 10:13 am

I wish selecting two in the poll had been an option, as this would have applied to me. I do confuse pronouns when speaking, especially during my bouts of verbosity (suddenly switching to "you" when I'd been using "I", etc.), but I also have recently realized that I use my name or "she"/"her" when referring to myself in my own thoughts. This is not to say I frequently think in words in this way; usually my thoughts don't come in words and I then have to translate them into language. When they do come as words, it is frequently a situation wherein I'm going through a potential conversation between two individuals I know (neither of whom are me) and thinking about them talking about me. Thus, when there's a reference to me in the conversation it's in the third person, as it would be if two people actually were talking about me. Except I know the conversation isn't a legitimate one, i.e. it would never happen in reality between any two people. For instance, while walking through my yard I have thought, "Mimey loves the sound of the leaves rustling in this wind, as well as the light of the overcast sky." Obviously, this is just a thought one would have to oneself: most people would have this thought in almost exactly the same form, but with "I" in place of my name, which is third person. So for the longest time I had thought I simply thought everything as if from an observer's perspective, but I now realize that is the same as referring to myself in the third person in my thoughts; the statements are equivalent.



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26 Jul 2015, 11:48 am

Maybe this has to do with dissociation in the thinking ?



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26 Jul 2015, 4:25 pm

Thanks to everyone for your comments. It's good to know it's a bit more common than I thought, though surely confusing for people that don't know the individual who gets the mix-up in pronouns. We'll keep doing what we're doing - correcting.



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26 Jul 2015, 5:11 pm

My pronoun problems are word-finding errors. Sometimes I'm aware that I'm making them, other times they are mistakes that I don't catch because I'm stressed, tired, rushing, or just so focused on the non-pronoun parts of what I'm trying to communicate that I don't check whether or not I'm using the correct pronouns.

They happen mostly (or entirely) because I tend to build what I say on a foundation of phrases and sentences/sentence structure.... the phrase(s)/sentence(s)/sentence structure I think of to communicate something contains or fits pronouns that aren't appropriate for the person(s) I'm referencing or the perspective I'm speaking from. (I make similar errors with tense, for the same reason.)

I have problems understanding other people's use of pronouns in context (not just the ones that refer to people, but also the ones that refer to things, such as "that/this/it") when they're using complex sentences.


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27 Jul 2015, 11:28 am

olympiadis wrote:
Maybe this has to do with dissociation in the thinking ?


Perhaps. I also have difficulty identifying emotional feelings (I recognise my emotions via physical sensations), and when I look at myself in the mirror I frequently refer to the image as "that person", indicating an obvious disconnect between my concept of self and my face/external body (by this I mean not my brain). This could just be the prosopagnosia, though.

Have you heard of any psychology/neurobiology literature on the topic of dissociation with reference to the self in the brains of aspies? If so, could you link me to it?