"She's one of our babies..."

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If t is truly bothering you, maybe give it a few days so the anger.confusion isn't so fresh and ask this teacher what she meant by it. Wouldn't hurt to explain the sensitive hearing either... I seriously doubt she or the visitor have any overt ill intent or will but then again, they may not know how their expression of concern comes across.

If you feel you can handle a mature conversation about it - asking can only foster more understanding. Just don't let it turn into an inquisition. She sounds like one of the good guys...

I think I could be 90 and still be referred to as 'kiddo', 'sweety' or 'baby'. In disability employment services they don't do that though. They'd get in trouble. They have to treat us like adults and can't single us out in any way. I never really had any services in school though. I just think some people see as as young, innocent and special.

I was trying to say you over hear something and think that's what they were saying so close enough. Whenever I over hear something, I just brush it off and not assume because someone could be talking about something else or they say something and I think they said X because that's what it sounded like to my ears. So I often think "did I actually hear that or is it just my mind playing tricks on me?" meaning am I mishearing the person. Sometimes we all want to hear something and think that is what we heard. I just don't trust my own ears is all unless the person says it loud and clear. Then I know.

If a co-worker said that about me to a stranger or other co-worker they would find their unattended drinks pick up a different texture or taste. That type of a statement would embarrass the hell out of me.

I think you should take it as a compliment and not over-analyze it too much.

Yes, you might interpret her comment as being a bit patronizing (not sure if that is the correct word usage), but I can tell you that she probably means well. To her, you are a child still... which may be further enforced because you are on the spectrum. It's not uncommon that people with disabilities get looked upon as child-like. This may be reflecting a personal bias on her part, or possibly reveal some of her "motives" for becoming a special-ed teacher (or whatever you want to call her).

But, the bottom line is, she probably does care for you in a genuine manner.

well, it might be a bit of patronising; i notice this effect myself as well.
for example, when i just moved house (and the majority of time after that actually), my housemates would tell me to 'man up' and 'stop complaining/exaggerating' when i asked to turn off the tv instead of standby mode, or wore sunglasses indoors during summer (stupid water reflections...)
but since i, lately, told them about my AS, it is usually an 'are you ok'/'is this bothering you' all around the board...
really guys, nothing has changed, and you know i mention it if something bothers me, just like the years before....
(although they did indeed change the noisy behaviours; that's kinda nice)