People assuming things about you?

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I forgot a few important ones:

-That I have a low tolerance to pain

-That if I know someone is less intelligent than me, despite all other factors, I will feel superior to them

-That I am stoic

Lots of people assume that I have an 18-inch penis. It's a good thing they're correct, because it would piss me off if people were making false assumptions about me.

I hate it when I tell someone about a bully, and they assume it's just me misinterpreting them, by saying, ''oh perhaps they were just having a stroppy day, they didn't mean anything at you personally.'' I always feel like yelling, ''oh shut up, smartarse - you don't know what went on there, you wasn't even there!'' I hate it when they side with the bullies, just because I have AS so I'm meant to not understand body language. I'm good with reading body language and all of that sort of thing, and I know when somebody is being nasty to me or not.

Also I hate it when people think I can't express how I feel. That is BS, I'm constantly expressing how I feel! It's just a matter of standing up for myself in an awkward situation. I find standing up for myself in awkward situations very challenging indeed, but that's an unrelated matter to expressing your feelings. I just find approaching someone and being firm and assertive VERY difficult and awkward because I worry that it might backfire. It's happened 3 or 4 times before.

I rarely tell anyone about my pdd-nos unless they NEED to know, like when i plan on having more social contact with them, but yes i have noticed that people seem to assume a lot, a while ago a girl i knew assumed that i freak out a lot, which i actually dont :/ And like Joe said, it also happened to me a lot in a special group home that they always said ''oh thats just how you see it'' etc, just because i see things different doesn't mean i don't have a solid grip on reality.

The next someone says ''oh perhaps they were just having a bad day'' I feel like saying, ''I'll give you a bad day in a minute!''

I am very quiet about my NVLD. NVLD is like Asperger's but with ADD, dyscalculia, and dysgraphia thrown in for fun.


My family knows though. As those of you who have NVLD know, it's a sort of enigma. No one really gets it. Many of its characteristics seem to contradict themselves.

But, seeming as it is a spectrum disorder very similar to Asphergers, I get many of these presumptions:

From People Who Know:

1. That I am stupid.
2. When I am not thought of as stupid, I am thought of as lazy. (because of my bad grades)
3. That I am brilliant at maths (I wish!)
4. That I love trains (Trains bore me to death)
5. That I am incapable of normal socialization.
6. That I am a complete weirdo.

From People Who Do Not Know:

1. I am a social idiot.
2. I am stupid
3. I have wicked ADD
4. I am a complete weirdo.
5. I am really smart.

Employers are the worst. I sit there acting proffessional at an interview, showing a good, up to date CV, answering questions correctly, and being all prepared and willing that I can do the work, and showing how reliable and self-sufficiant I can be and proving it by giving them a CV which says I've done voluntary work and took computer courses, and I have slightly underaverge grades (but they're all passes) and I have references on my CV who could give them some feedback on what my volunteer jobs entailed - and yet as soon as they find out I have AS, they do not want to know. It is very discouraging.

I've got to let employers know about it somehow, so that they could be aware if I came across a task I didn't quite understand, or whatever. Often I've heard about people with disabilities starting a job but not telling the employer about it then getting the sack for doing something what they unintentionally done due to their condition. That's very off-putting too.

IT'S NOT FAIR, WHY AM I PUT ON THIS EARTH TO SUFFER WITH THIS?! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

Most people don't assume much about me, I don't give them very much to go on really.

I can't really tell what people have assumed, but when my job or expertise comes up, they are normally kind of surprised.

Someone did say that they assume I am always stressed and that someone warned them that I'd bite their head off, I guess my appearance and manner are well known, but also somewhat inaccurate.

Oh and someone else at work who I bumped I into at a local techno night was surprised to see me, she assumed I wouldnt be interested in that sort of thing.

Jason