Regulating the volume of your voice

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I'm told I'm too loud all the time even though my tone seems normal to me. I tend to get louder as I talk about my special interests or when I'm excited. I talk louder when I'm on my cell phone too.

I'm constantly told that I'm very loud, I always have been, regardless of the proximity of the unfortunate person that I'm shouting to.

I am sometimes too quiet, but I have mostly mastered the art of correct volume. I know a person who is always really loud (I think he might have AS or something like it, but I've never asked) and he seems to have no idea how loud he is. I keep thinking that someone should tell him, but it's kind of an embarrassing thing to do. But he won't change unless someone points it out.

I'm told that I speak too loudly. Occasionally people will tell me "you don't have to yell" - but the thing is, I never yell on purpose. My voice is just naturally loud for some reason. It's really embarrassing, especially if I'm trying to talk about something private.

I get told often that I speak loudly - that I really project my voice, which is pretty deep.

Hmmm yes I often get told I talk too loudly or to speak up. It's weird when I get told this because I always think I'm talking at normal volume, but when someone points it out I realize that I actually was speaking too loud/soft.

When I was growing up, I was always too quiet. I was yelled at for mumbling all the time, but I thought I was speaking at a clear volume.

When I got into high school, I took a drama class on a whim. I really liked the class, although many elements of it were difficult for me. One thing I learned from it was how to project my voice. Which I then did all the time. As far as I remember, no one complained about this until I lived with roommates when I was 18, and one asked me to stop yelling all the time. I did not think I was yelling, but apparently I was. So I went back to speaking too quietly for years afterward. These days, I occasionally get a complaint from my niece that I am speaking too loudly, although I do not think I am that loud and others do not agree with her. Still, it's a bit on my mind.

I should probably ask someone who is more likely to be objective about it.

Both.

I have a tendancy to yell into a phone like an old person. I dont' even notice until my husband says something and then I'm like, oh yeah. If I'm talking about something I know a lot about I guess I'm practicaly yelling. I was giving a presentation at work one day and paused to look at the audience (typically I stare at the wall so I can handle being in front of the people, no one minds) and I noticed that several people in the front were covering their ears. So I took it down a notch. Other times someone will ask me something and I'll say "yes, I'd like cheese on my burger" but apparently what they hear is "Hmm mm mm mm" so I end up repeating myself a few times.

Family always told me I was too loud.Even now I have trouble with it if I get excited about something.I have been told that I am yelling at people.I honestly don,t think I sound loud in my head.I now try to talk at a lower volume.In school since I had such a loud speaking voice the teachers would always pick me to narrate any slide show.To this day I can read to a large group of people no problem but I cannot hardly deal with a small group of people who want to talk to me.

Yep. They take my voice as threatening or in the completely wrong way that was intended. I end up clueless as to why they reacted a certain way. This happens way too often.

Wow, this just happened to me today.

This one lady at work is always very particular about us young ones keeping the noise down. She complains that I am too loud, and keeps giving me dirty looks when I forget to keep my voice down around her.

Well, in general, I tend to raise my voice (in a position of authority) at work when everyone else around me knows to keep things quiet.

People usually tell me to lower my voice or that I am too loud or "not so loud." Sometimes people think I am yelling at them. My voice usually gets loud when I am excited or upset. Then it gets quiet when I am calm and it gets loud for no reason too. No one has told me to talk louder or that I am speaking too low.

I also wish people would talk loud at me so I can hear them over noise. I suspect others have no issues with this. I have been asked "Are you deaf?" at my last job when I scooted closer to a co worker in a noisy break room because everyone was talking and I couldn't hear her. So I scooted close to her and got right in her face so I could hear her. My chair was touching hers. I told her I cannot hear over all the background noise and she has to shout so I can hear her or else I have to be close. It was still hard hearing her but it was better. I used to spend my time in the locker room than break room because it get too chaotic for me. Plus I could not hear my parents on the phone when I be talking to them.
But I do talk over everything thinking the person won't be able to hear me.

Yes. All the time except at work, where the air conditioning unit is quite loud and people are constantly being asked to "speak up."

An interesting note - I talk loudly but my NT mom talks so loudly that it hurts most of the time.

I also, when around children, frequently have to ask them to speak up.

I'm told I'm being too loud sometimes, and very rare is it that I'm told to speak up. It's probably reflective of my behaviour as a whole: goes out-of-hand sporadically at times when I'm oblivious to it. If I could sort out that 20% of the time when it's over the top, I'd be laughing.

Sometimes when I'm either very anxious or having a lot of fun in a social situation, I have a tendency to raise my voice. This is something I have discovered only recently, so I've begun working on it now that I'm aware.

A girl I mentor also has the same problem (only hers is much more noticeable) when she's talking about something funny or really exciting. I have a brief nonverbal cue I use to help her lower her voice.