thechadmaster wrote:
I believe that respect is earned, not given automatically. Regardless of your social status, wealth, political authority, job title, etc. I do not believe in giving respect simply because someone demands it. You have to first show me that you see me as a fellow human being who has feelings, is not simply a robot who is there for you to knock around.
My beliefs are directly at odds with my job. I work in retail, where management (figuratively) demands you hand over your shirt for the customer to wipe his ass with if he should ask. I believe customers need to step down off the high horse and realize that there are other customers besides him who are waiting to/are being served. Money holds no sway with me. I dont give a fig if you're "rich enough to buy my house out from under me", if you're not showing me any respect, I have no motivation to show you any.
I find it highly disrespectful for a manager to tell an employee he did something wrong while the employee is with a customer. I find it disrespectful for a customer to barge through a line of other customers to "ask a quick question" especially when others are in line to do just that. I find it even more disrespectful for a customer to ask me to "work on the rusty GMC later, i want new tires on my BMW now".
Am I wrong for believing that respect is a two way street? Should I have to stand there and take constant verbal abuse and then thank the customer for it? Am I wrong for wanting more out of life than to be treated worse than a stray dog?
So here is the nub of what you're saying:
You dont believe in giving respect 'automatically'.
Other people have to earn your respect.
And how do they do that?
By giving YOU unearned respect automatically!
Lol!
Several other posters here have echoed that same laughable statement.
Am I the only who sees that as a contradiction?
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Okay -maybe its semantic.
You dont mean "respect"( treating them as an equal). You mean "deference". Treating them as more than an equal-kowtowing.
But this is a job. you're not there to venerate rich customers because you really admire them. You PRETEND to worship them[while you are on the clock] just to get their money.
So think of yourself as a starving canibal, and the rich customers as pieces of steak walking around. Then do what you gotta do to get some meat.
Objectify them. Just as they objectify you.
Thats how you play the game.
29 Oct 2012, 7:40 pm
