NTs who try to change you

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Some do. When I was finally diagnosed 30 years after leaving school, and was invited to the first school reunion I ever attended, lots of them apologized for the past when they gave me such a hard time at school.

I still wouldn't really say I fit in with a large group, but at least I had more acceptance than at age 16-17.

I remember when I was 10-11, the other girls in my class wanted to teach me how to be cool. I didn't take offense to it, nor did I refuse. I wanted them to teach me to be more cool. I felt the center of attention for a while, and each skill I learnt drew me closer to my peers, which was what I desperately wanted. So that made me fit in, which I really, really loved. Until we went up to secondary school, where we were classed as ''big kids'' and you had to learn all the social standards by yourself, not have your classmates teach you, and so the girls lost interest and I became more of an outcast than ever.

As an adult, there are some things I would like somebody to help me change, like how to become more confident, which my boyfriend is showing me how. I do need to be more confident, because I am timid and I'm fed up with being timid. But there are some things I DON'T want people to change about me, like my childlike behaviour. I can be mature when it comes to responsibilities, but I can be childlike, or quirky. Sometimes I act like I'm in a film or a cartoon, you know, with over-exaggerated body language and stuff. I find being calm and cool boring. Like at work there's this door that leads into a basement. I've never been in there, but something about it fascinates me, and I really want to unlock the door and go inside. But then my co-workers will think I'm weird if they saw me mucking around in the basement. There's no reason for me to go in there, and only the care-taker is allowed to go in there. But I do get fascinated with things like that.

I don't mind changing if I'm left alone to do it on my own terms. If I feel that I'm being dictated to on how to live my life by some NT in my family, it can grate on me and especially after I've done changing to find my place in society on my own terms. I'm sure that most of you here on WP are familiar with what my own terms are. The time I went from Punk to Mod to make myself happy and to fit in in my own way.

This happened to me more when I was younger people tried to make me socialise even though I was uncomfortable about it, the people they tried to make me socialise with didn't want me around and I didn't want to play with them anyway.

Another time when I was at school this girl tried to make me climb a fence and said if I didn't she wouldn't like me anymore, I did tell her I couldn't do it anyway I just walked off needless to say she left the school not long after.

yeah the times when my husband gets worked up enough to throw the good old "why can't you just be normal??" question my way, I just tell him "because I'm not willing to dumb myself down for you people".

Whatever. Ask a mean question, get a mean answer! (my husband, not DevilKisses, obviously!)