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31 Jul 2017, 8:59 am

On the extreme end:

Complete lack of a filter from brain to mouth
Oversharing or TMI

At the less severe end:

Overenthusiastic interest in a favorite subject
Misunderstanding what has been said
Lack of interest in the popular trend, if not feeling nauseated by certain aspects of pop culture altogether

In my case, I tend to become anxious if people request a specific answer and I can't come up with it. I also become quiet when I feel wisdom dictates I do so. This has been interpreted as "shutdown" when it really isn't at all.



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31 Jul 2017, 11:06 am

naturalplastic wrote:
Why can someone with Aspergers come across as rude?

Well duhhh... because theyre aspies. That's why.

Just about every distinctive trait that defines aspergers can cause an aspie come off as rude if the aspie isn't careful.

Lack of TOM, lack of a filter, excessive honesty/bluntness, not knowing social rules.


Can an Aspie learn TOM so it's not an issue?


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31 Jul 2017, 11:08 am

I did. I learned lots after my 20's.

I was really pretty oblivious to "theory of mind" and the concept of "other people" (especially as regards complex emotions) until then.



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31 Jul 2017, 11:29 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I did. I learned lots after my 20's.

I was really pretty oblivious to "theory of mind" and the concept of "other people" (especially as regards complex emotions) until then.


thanks Kraftie :D


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31 Jul 2017, 11:50 am

In addition to what others posted, sometimes we come across as rude because we are actually being rude.


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31 Jul 2017, 11:54 am

jrjones9933 wrote:
In addition to what others posted, sometimes we come across as rude because we are actually being rude.


Nice answer :lol:


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31 Jul 2017, 12:41 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I did. I learned lots after my 20's.

I was really pretty oblivious to "theory of mind" and the concept of "other people" (especially as regards complex emotions) until then.


Yeah me too. I was very black and white about things. It was like learning to see in colour.

I can't think of any specific examples.