Do you get uncomfortable around people?

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Mum: Just be yourself

Me: Slaps on the German helmet

Mum: Not in that way! Get rid of that helmet!

Me: Takes the bus back to my apartment.

Eh ... that depends on the situation I guess? I don't mind people per se. For example I don't have any objection to taking the bus, even if it's crowded (to the point of regularly talking to some of the drivers). And people at work are totally fine, I like many of them in fact. Trying to carry on a conversation in large groups is a bit of a pain though as I can't figure out what's being said.

There's really only one thing that I don't like. It's any situation where I might become close friends with someone. That is very frightening -- in fact, it's on the level of having a gun held to my head.

I'm uncomfortable around nearly everyone bar my girlfriend and daughter.

I get uncomfortable around people. I may become nonverbal altogether if overwhelmed or pressured. I only feel comfortable in the presence of very few individuals who are close to me.

Unless you isolate yourself on a lonely island, people will be everywhere and you cannot avoid them. So you just have to learn to tolerate people in order to be happy. You can't stop them being around you, unless you avoid going out altogether.

I did not mean a word of that. It's just what people on internet forums say to me when I want to share how I feel (or rant) about kids.

I love kids, but I can't stand it when they are being as loud and obnoxious as possible. My voice doesn't carry very well so it makes it hard to for me to interact with one kid while all the other kids are being excessively loud and rambunctious. People can hear and understand me as long as there is no one else making noise of any sort and I speak at a moderate speed.

Kids get carried away sometimes.

I am uncomfortable around most people. My two closest friends, fishkeepers, etc are an exception.

I feel discomfort mostly around relatives and neighbours. For some reason total strangers don't make me feel so uncomfortable.

I also don't have any drive to chase social interactions because I just can't find them pleasurable. They're just bad or neutral, but never something I really enjoy.
And for this reason I never keep friendships or chase girlfriends.

I always get uncomfortable around people. There are only a few people in my life that I am the most comfortable around. I have bad social anxiety, and I can not even socialise around other people with Asperger's syndrome. I just silently stay back & not participate in the gathering. Most of the time, I can be comfortable around people I have things in common with, but there are not very many of them. I am attempting to be more sociable by attending Meetups with adults with Asperger's syndrome, but it has not been very successful.



I am more social online & here on Wrong Planet than I am in real life.

I am more social here than in real life as well^^^^^

NO

I do get uncomfortable, but I found friends I am good around.

I'm more social on here and with my few close friends than I am with most people, including my family. I feel that I have the leeway to be myself when I'm on WP or with my small circle of friends. That leeway that I don't feel with anybody else.

Like other people said...yes. I mean that depends on the situation at least, if it was someone I knew then I guess it'd be okay (unless if it was someone I really hate so much, like a bully from high school for an example). Now as for other people I wouldn't know....depending on another person's body language, & facial expression I either might try to make short conversation with one or more people, or just give a quick hi. Otherwise if someone hates me for a reason or no reason whether I know them or not....if someone I didn't know would be talking trash about me for no reason, I wouldn't say anything to cause trouble......just be mature plus respectful & be all mellow like.

But depending on someone I know or don't know I might get a little comfortable if someone is nice (but not someone who pity me, I hate those types of people), I did make some friends on my junior year that only lasted first & second semester in high school & it wasn't uncomfortable for me once I got to know like 5 or 6 people during those times. Nowadays I wear sunglasses whenever I go out in public because of social anxiety that probably came to me in 2016, plus if I were to get a job & couldn't wear sunglasses for reasons....that would probably make me uncomfortable if I was around people that would seem boring to me.

Because of my experience with people whether it'd be online or in real life, my best bet is to be alone forever once you'd get your own place, car, job, whatever.

Comfort is relative, Do I want to be around people? No! Does my work require me to be around them? Yes! TBH I want to miss people, I really do. But if you're around them all the time it does get annoying to say the least. The best you can do is endure them.