When friends gossip about you...

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I suppose it would offend me if I knew it, but some gossip is to be expected. Myself, I'm not much of a gossiper. If there is an issue I have with somebody I might bring them up to look for advice from outside parties.

Though the types of people you need stay away from are the habitual gossipers. These types talk about you behind your back constantly, from their own negative judgements about you and the secrets you have entrusted to tell them. This is no friend, it is somebody that has insecurity issues or worse and is using you as an ego boost. Total disrespect. This is how bs rumors start and flourish and degrade your reputation and some dignity. Once you realize it, it is too late the damage has been done and is difficult to clear up.

Gossip is an awful thing. I do talk about friends, but it's usually about how I appreciate them. I make a point never to spread anything personal.

It does hurt, though, when you find friends are talking about you. I've even made a point of asking my friends to tell me if I'm bothering them in any way, because if you avert the problem by discussing it with others then it creates unwanted tension. Despite this, though, I know they'd rather talk about people behind their back instead of addressing issues firsthand... it's sad, really.

Has anyone dealt with this? If so, what would you recommend?

There's an easy solution to that problem. Just don't have friends. j/k

I couldn't care less what people think about me.
I think when you're young (especially in school), people are very paranoid about what other people think of them, but as they get older they realize it's pointless and they just don't give a crap anymore.

Gossip and badmouthing are not the same thing. Some people here don't seem to have a clear distinction between the two. Especially the OP, at least 2 years ago when they posted this thread.