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> [Ana54] wrote:
> My mother found some 2-bedroom apartments that are $500 to like $780, in
> Houston. My parents think that the disability people would give you enough
> for rent, but then again your doctor only said you were temporarily
> disabled... but maybe it would last long enough for me to finish school and
> get a job, I don't know.

a $500 apartment in houston would be scary - like step over the crack
addict to get to your room and ignore the gunshots. but yeah, for
under $780 you could find something. if i was getting disability
payments that would be enough for rent, but then there's utilities.
100-200 every month for power. a lot of times water is included with
the apartment, or it's 30$. 30 for the phone. 120 for car insurance.
and gas. there's food stamps that would probably cover our food, but
finn's eating more and more formula all the time and WIC isn't giving
us any more than before, and formula's expensive. (without WIC, finn's
eating over $200 / month worth of formula now.). and then there's
toilet paper and soap and a thousand other things... plus school costs
money. and i want to be able to buy finnegan toys and stuff. not to
mention shopping trips to the mall...

disability is basically like having a $5/hr job. you can't live on
$5/hr. you certainly can't support a family. disability is there
because truly disabled people are cared for by other people, and
disability payments keep them from being a financial burden.

my doctor saying i'm temporarily disabled has nothing to do with the
Social Security disability system. that was for me applying for
Temporary Aid for Needy Families. i applied for that over a month ago
and haven't heard anything back. if i get it, it only lasts 6 months.
i don't know how much it will pay if i do get it but i'm sure it's not
enough to live on. being called disabled for that means that i don't
have to participate in the looking for work program if i get it. what
a doctor says has very little to do with someone getting disability.

i would participate in their looking for work program, or find a job
on my own, if the government agency that can take away babies with
very little oversight didn't say that i had to supervise finnegan.

> disability. In Ontario they pay your rent and in Alberta you don't have to
> have a small room, you can have a bigger apartment if you have a family and
> Social Services will support you and your family and pay your rent.

that's weird to me, permanent disability for someone with a bad but
not ruined shoulder, plus you say the state just takes care of
everything for you? you also said that takes 6 months or more to get.

> My dad never had peace of mind when he lived with his parents. He was

did he have peace of mind being supported by the government welfare
system? no, 'cause he supports himself. i respect that he can live in
his van, and i understand how that self-reliance gives him
self-respect. but i won't have my son living with me in a van.

> helping them out, but he still felt bad living with them even though he was
> looking after his invalid father, and then his mother became an invalid too
> nad he was looking after them both. And he still felt guilty for living with
> them.

i'd feel guilty not looking after my invalid mother. wouldn't you? if
your mom was an invalid and no one else was helping her, you'd just
leave her to rot?

why can't we ever talk about anything else? everything thing i've said
in this and the last few emails is stuff i've all said before, and
going around in circles is frustrating.

so - tell me how it goes with the community health place today!

are you done applying for jobs and you're just going to wait for one
of those places to call you back? whatever happened to the credit card
soliciting?

i hope you have a good day today.

I've finally found the career I ant; I don't need to learn how to drive or memorize the entire city so I can know my way around. MRI technician. Then when I feel more confident I can do nursing assistant and nurse.


I'm just waiting for one of those places to call back,


No, you never explained it quite like trhis before; now I understand. Thanks.


But if it comes down to living with your mother I'm sorry but I'll have to leave; I can't take it.