Why can women live at home at any age,,,,,,,,,,,

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I was considered good looking in my 20s and it just made me a greater target of various types of predators. Definitely didn't make my life easier! as much as I'd like to lose weight for my health, I'm glad that I'm fat now because I don't attract the same level of uncomfortable and confusing attention that I did when I was younger.

for me, being fat means I can spend some blissful time with one of the loves of my life: chocolate. I should probably stop though .

I think this is a cultural construction. Living in Japan most everyone who is unmarried lives with their folks- male and female. I know women in their late 30s who've never left home, as well as men in their 40s! In my opinion I think it's kind of sad, as they are missing out on interesting experiences and growth opportunities.

When I lived in America, with my folks, I only felt pressure from myself to move out. I was 26 and I thought "This is ridiculous. I'm perfectly capable of being independent" (though I didn't wanna live completely by myself). My middle brother only just moved out and he is 29. My youngest brother is 27 and seems to have no intention whatsoever of moving out of my parents' house. My family is a rare case. Most of my friends' and brothers' friends' parents all but kicked their kids out! Plus their folks were divorced so probably not as close as my family is.

As a girl I DO think women get it easier for staying with mom and dad. I have other female friends who believe the same. I think it is because we are supposed to be the more nurturing, better emotionally able to take care of our folks when they get old and sick, and we can cook and clean etc. Of course this is stupid reasoning. The real reason is because most every country out there is patriarchal and expects the man to be out working and proving himself as the breadwinner, while it is fine for a woman to stay at home and be a housewife (even if she isn't a wife at all).

I'm not terribly fond of chocolate.

I got fat because my health is bad and my health care is worse. I gained almost 100 pounds with a pregnancy that went to gestational diabetes that was never treated because I was going to the low-income health clinic and getting really bad service. That spun off into hormonal problems and diabetes. I have all the symptoms of PCOS but the clinic refuses to test me (if I ask for a test, I'm told that I have hypochondria. If I keep a chart of my symptoms to prove I need the test, I'm told I have OCD. If I just wait for the clinic to decide I ought to have a test, I'll be waiting until I die.)

I am sorry to read that. I hope your health gets better in the coming years.


me, I have binge eating disorder, and have had a bad last couple of years.

Thanks. I'm hoping when/if I graduate I'll be able to get a job and then I'll be able to get real insurance and then I'll be able to see a real doctor and then my health will improve.



That'll do it. Sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you, too. *non-intrusive virtual hug*

The only time this issue comes into play is dating. Think about it. A woman might reconsider dating you if you still live with your parents, but it probably wouldn't be an issue vice versa. There are exceptions, but from my observations, this is generally true.

I am not sure on this, because gender roles keep changing.

I've never noticed that. Maybe people's opinions are different where the OP lives.

THANK YOU!! I'm tired of hearing how women have it easy. I'm tired of hearing how men have to fight for this and that while all women have to do is look pretty and someone will take care of them and make all their problems go away.

I'm violently shaking right now as I just pushed myself half to death while lifting weights. Why did I deliberately go at 160% you might ask? Because I have a LFA brother that I get to restrain when he has a meltdown...And he is 16, and growing, and he's not going to be skinny and weak and easy to control forever. One and only option I see is to get strong as f**k like a Siberian tiger so I'll still be able to restrain him when he's 20 and full grown and has lots more lovely muscle mass to lash out with. Oh...wait. I'm a woman. Therefore I don't have problems. According to the OP, I can just solve everything with my looks and my big breasts. Haha. I wish.

Last edited by mechanicalgirl39 on 11 Oct 2010, 5:02 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Don't talk crap. Being good looking won't get you a job, or decent life skills, or the ability to cope when life throws a ton of crap at you.