Are Aspies drawn to oddball/misfit people more so than NTs?

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I associate myself with fictional characters more than real people and yes they tend to be oddball. Waluigi is probably the ur example.

I like fictional misfits. The real ones tend to be more trouble than they're worth, myself included.

I like people who are:

Nice

Knowledgeable about a large variety of topics and can converse
People who give me credit for having a brain, who encourage me and still believe in my ability to move forward in life even though I began "real life" activities at a late age. (Eg. finally getting my driver's license at 48).

I don't like people who:

Lie, deceive and stab people in the back
Are superficial
Have few or no real interests, other than the prevailing trend
Are generally mean-spirited

I have always liked weird people, even as a small child.I have even been friends with some of them and both my ex's were atypical but unfortunately none of them were nice people. Lot of guys I met from online were all weird and a couple of them had a disorder. Then there is my husband and he is atypical.

I don't think I even have any friends who are considered normal these days apart from maybe a couple of friends parents who are old. Even my family are batshit mental haha.

I see most mainstream people as real life NPCs. People who have no substance to their personality usually bore me endlessly. They're like a book, except a really boring book where everything is predictable.

Nowadays I can no longer tell the difference between a misfit that wants to stand out from the crowd from the ones that just have trouble fitting in....I miss the simpler times....

I am not averse to misfit folks. So I tended to have them as friends over the years.

The only group of friends I reliably had was in high school. Some might have been on the Spectrum (if it had existed at the time) but most probably would not have been.

We WERE all misfits and shared intense interests. We also learned to tolerate the things that we didn't necessarily like in each other which I think was an invaluable lesson to learn so early in life.

I wish more people had learned that lesson. Would make the world a lot nicer place.

I think that i tend to attract the misfit people, when i was in elementary school in second grade my friend was the girl who was considered stupid and no one wanted to sit with her so we were the leftover, then in third grade there were three misfit girls including me in the class but i was lucky and had a close friend i think she was normal, the other two had no friends, one who didn't like other classmates, and the other girl no one wanted to be her friend, the first would always talk with me and come and say hi to me she said she liked me because i was quiet and the other girls were loud - i wasn't the only quiet girl thought- , the other one chased me around for years and was really really annoying and thought we were close friends, they are my friends now and they still don't really have any other close friends.

but they aren't usually the kind of people i am interested in, they don't usually give me anything i need, it's like they need me because they don't have other friends not because they really like me, i like people who are knowledgeable, and don't have very low self esteem , two of my close friends whom i really like are very popular and most people like them, i don't know if they are really normal, but one is otaku like me.

Now that i think about it i didn't start choosing my friends until i went to college, they always talked to me first and tried to befriend me, this still happen in college, but i have tried to search for friends and managed to find two interesting people.

I am. I look for oddballs because I usually get on with them better than most folk.