A disturbing trend

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Thank you, everyone for posting your honest opinions about this! I am in a situation of not even knowing how much I was pretending to be normal in a new friendship of about seven months duration. But I went into meltdown on a couple of occasions, and now this person is avoiding me. I took on social things with her that I normally wouldn't, because she seemed so accepting, that I dared where I hadn't in the past. And now? Well, I have never had anyone say that they are too busy to talk to me on the phone, when we used to spend hours talking. I am feeling so hurt and confused and many other things, but it all boils down to not knowing how much is too much; meaning, how much do I pretend to be normal, and how much do I just be myself?

in my opinion you should try considering it something else to "acting" or "pretending"

I never whether its too much or not enough, so I decided simply to pursue girls that like the extremes, they exist! If that fails and you really do care about the person, maybe simply telling them what its like to be you, and maybe they will see how hard it is for you to behave that way.

I am of the strong belief that we can show love, trust, and friendship in our own way, I don't believe we have to act at all..

Before some of you get angry I understand if thats how you have to do things, but I believe we can use those skills we've learnt intellectually, to simply express what we truly want to talk about, an interest, a desire, whatever.

I personally think its much better to be alone more often, than to spend a lot of time pretending with someone and eat yourself up inside, you will explode, you will hurt them, and yourself. Instead maybe you could not worry so much about what is normal, and what isn't, and focus more on what is YOU, and what isn't....

What suprised me is I was acting to the point of using all my energy, and my brother, and another close friend, confronted me one day and actually told me they saw through all the crap, and that I can just be myself cause they know how angry it gets me, I was lucky.