What have you done to become more likeable?

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I've stopped spiking my hair and swearing, started listening to my favourite bands once more and decided to be myself.

I stopped caring about what people might think of me, and started saying what I think.

The result is I play a really good Katherina from Taming of the Shrew.

Just kidding, sort of, but what I mean is that apparently even some of the people who I thought didn't like me actually respected me for being "creative and smart," and so I just stopped caring what they might think. I've no way of knowing, and people are weird in what they'll tell you and what they'll withhold from you.

Humor seems to be the key for me.

That, and always being there for friends in crisis.

I ain't got much else, truthfully.

I'll also add that I have learned how to employ sarcasm (even though I can't read it all of the time). What is funny is that in the pizza place I work at there are two people with ADHD/borderline Aspergers and one other person I really suspect is on the spectrum. So, there is a lot of back and forth between us asking each other if we were being sarcastic or serious! Sometimes, we use the Sheldon Cooper "Hey! That was sarcasm!" quote to joke about it. No one thinks less of us for doing it (or at least they haven't let on that they do) and it makes it fun. The only problem lies when we end up on the same subjects and get completely sidetracked from work, preferring instead to talk about esoteric subjects that we may have studied instead of getting our work done.

Ive totally reworked my personality so that not a trace of my old self remains Im told that Ive come on leaps and bounds but if anything Ive regressed! Here are a few of my 'new' personality traits:
. Learning to say sorry even when you're not in the wrong
. Agreeing for the sake of social cohesion
. Not thinking too much about what you're saying, and just saying what you're thinking (this confused me for a while )
. Using brute force to force yourself to be more spontaneous and relaxed
. Like others have said before, if you can be humorous you can mask other social difficulties
And many, many more! I've totally shunned the idea of 'just being yourself' obviously! Just call me a social scientist

Well, I'll add another odd one to my list here. I got rid of a friend who was always hyper-critical of me. While he was one of the first to pick up on my autistic social traits, he was always nasty about it and went out of his way to make me feel like crap. It kept me from trying to find other friends for years and ruined the entirety of my 20's. Sometimes you are better off alone for a while rather than having someone around you always being critical. After that, I started to be more able to try some new things and not be constantly worried about criticism.

Another thing I did was two job changes. This put me around people who didn't know me and gave me a fresh start. I could tune out the things others had been expecting of me in the last place and work on being a better person in the new one. I did this a few times to let me slowly fix the issues I knew I had and become more functional.