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nessa238
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02 Mar 2013, 1:44 pm

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If I didn't have much relationship at all with my parents or even disliked them I doubt I would care about them having divorced and hell I might even like to think I may have played a major role if that was the case(don't know as i wasn't in that position)...I think part of how one reacts to their parents splitting up or how they feel is based on their initial relationship with their parents and feelings towards them.


I agree

I worry that I have something lacking tbh

I loved my Mother as she was a very nice person but she said once 'You don't care about us at all!' and it hurt me as I thought I did care but perhaps it didn't come across that way, then I thought what if I don't care? I wasn't sure what criteria she was using to define 'being caring'

I think something is missing in my ability to relate to others definitely

I seem to care to the extent that a person does what I want and makes me happy



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02 Mar 2013, 1:46 pm

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I don't relate to people whose parents split up really re what they get so upset about as I don't like my Dad and if I try to
imagine how I'd have felt if he'd left I can't say I'd have been too bothered hence I don't relate to all the angst


Well, in my case, my parents divorce meant I went from a nice house in a nice city and a private school where I thrived to a miserable apartment complex in a trashy town and a public school where I was mercilessly bullied. As for my actual dad, well, I was afraid of him and kind of relieved not to have him around. Everyone's experience is different though and I suppose having trouble coping with change in general would be a common thread.


yes I can see how a radical change of living arrangements for the worse would affect you a lot

My Mother once said to me 'Do you want us to put you into care?' at one point when I was acting in a disruptive way at home

I remember thinking 'Hmmm I wonder what that would be like?'