Do others not like you because you're quiet?

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I had a "friend" once who was coming to town on business and I suggested we have lunch. She said, "Yeah, but you have to talk."

My friends would mock me by saying 'god shanti you just never shut up' when I was quiet. I didn't catch onto sarcasm back then.

Sadly this is the case with me I am very self involved busy with my own things and especiall at home I am silent, my best friends are quite frankly shocked that I am quiet at home because when I am I am very hyper lol best compared to brian blessed.

Unfortunately my quietness is confused with rudeness and ignorance and according to my step father "The lack of wanting to be in the famiy" lol I firstl don't really care you're not my family frankly because you do not even have blood relation lol. I actually consider my 5 well 6 friends my little family because they know me more than my mum does.

I wonder if this is the case for other aspies

Personally I think it is because of the following: If you talk to someone a lot, you get to know them. They may become your friend or your enemy, but you know who they are and what their weaknesses and strengths are. The quiet ones, you don't really know about. They may sit with you, and occasionally speak with you, and you start thinking they're your friend. But then in some moment they betray you because they actually didn't like you at all. You didn't know this because you never conversed with them.

Thus, it pays to watch out for the quiet ones, as they are indeed an unknown quantity.

Kinda. I'm quiet in class and most would rather sit next to someone else than me (they aren't always happy if I sit next to them.) A student once asked me why I was so quiet.

People used to think I was mean or unfriendly or something, but when I found out, I started to smile more and that seems to work quite well, even though I still don't talk much.

LMAO, one of my former room mates was SUPER easy to freak out. She'd jump a mile at least once a day.. and yeah, it was often from me walking up and quietly waiting for her to be done typing or something.

i_wanna_blue, I can relate to you as, when I was much younger around the age of 10 or so my sister often told her friends that I was mentally ret*d from the mere standpoint that, I did not say anything esp, when during the times of being around my sister's friends.Still, just cause I was not running my mouth all the time and tended to be quiet should not make someone appear to be either strange nor odd for that matter..Honestly, I've always felt that in my own way it's best to simply speak when there is a necessity to do so..These days I do speak but, not always carrying on as if I was conducting a lecture like Stephen Hawking or such but, I try to speak in a sincere manner when in conversational mode neverless..